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submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by dumbass@sh.itjust.works to c/autism@lemmy.world

Never thought, that I would have to post this. While reading my autism medical documents, from when I was 6 yo (I'm now in my late teens), my father found some logic deficits mentioned. I never knew about it. I seem inteligent, barely do any work for school and still do great. I'm the best in class at maths and some otger subjects. I even solved this and got 110 (I know, online iq tests aren't reliable, but I think it would have diagnosed intelectual dissability properly). My only logic issues are sudokus (I did them when I was around 6, stopped and now I'm bad at them, practically learning again) and physics at school (not terrible, but below average).

Do I have ID or not, should I test my iq professionally and how does intelectual dissability even show?

And of course for the dramatic effect: "What the hell?"

Edit: I know this is poorly written, am to lazy to edit.

Another edit: Forgot to mention, I'm known to be smart in most groups, some exceptions think I'm stupid, but most of them aren't really academically sucessful.

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[-] dumbass@sh.itjust.works 0 points 5 months ago

I have previously had problems with this, like in primary school, when the documents were still valid, I was known as "the retarded kid" by the teachers. That's also why I didn't want my high school to know about my autism, but professors still, even now, that they know I have autism respect me, because they don't know about since they don't know as much as the primary school did.

[-] DessertStorms@kbin.social 1 points 5 months ago

they don’t know as much as the primary school did

Or maybe they knew more? Because they were seeing you there as is, and they didn't see these issues, nor did you, nor do they seem to interfere with your daily life, so perhaps the teachers in your primary school were just ableist assholes who didn't care enough to learn about you beyond a possible difficulty you were having (or one they were having), which is perfectly normal for any kid that age, but especially ND kids, before they categorised you as not worth their time (I'm sorry they called you that).

In the grand scheme of things, no one ever in your life, unless you show them the document or this post, is likely to ever find out about that note from primary school. Even if there is a copy kept outside of the school, they wouldn't keep stuff like that forever, and there's definitely no "main file of your life" where this will be.

Maybe it's worth seeing this as the traumatic past experience that it was, process that, learn from it, and accept yourself a little more. Those teachers had their own issues, or were just shitty people, definitely not worthy educators whose opinions you should take to heart. I know it hurts and has a lasting impact because I had teachers like that, and decades later I still remember some of their comments, but I don't let it impact me anymore because I know their opinions of me are worthless because they had no idea who I was or what I was like, or what my actual struggles were, and they definitely couldn't have predicted where I would have ended up in different points in my life.

Don't let them define you.

[-] dumbass@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Thanks. By saying, they knew more, I ment, about the medical document (since they were the SpEd docs). Most of them never mentioned it directly, but the physics teacher did (since I'm not that good at it) and I felt the disrespect of some other teachers as well, but classmates respected me.

Edit: forgot to mention, the primary school knew more about my meltdowns, that I now mask at school.

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