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The FTM's Complete Guide to Looking Like a Hot Dude
(ftmguide.rassaku.net)
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I’m trying to be very careful with my words here, because I don’t believe the author of the guide was. He talked about his personal experience, what he learned from it, and he was kind enough to organize and share everything. That’s all good. He also reinforces and disseminates harmful body issues. And that’s the part that bothered me from the guide’s tittle.
I’m a nonbinary man. I say that to inform my perspective in regards to the subject, where I’m coming from and my limitations. At this point in my life, I don’t have to pass, I have never had to worry about passing or having my identity invalidated by the way I look. I believe that passing is just something we do to be able to exist in society and that our goal should be expressing our identity the best way we can without being chained by societal expectations.
I didn’t want to be negative. I wanted to put a warning for those that would read the guide, but the more I read, the more I can’t recommend people dealing with any body related issues to read. I’ll leave it at that or it’ll become an attack with me quoting everything I find problematic or harmful.
Hey there - asking this from a place of genuine ignorance and desire to understand more - what exactly does "nonbinary man" mean to you? My understanding of nonbinary gender identities would see this as essentially a contradiction, since I would say that being nonbinary, by definition, means that someone doesn't identify as a man or a woman.
Feel free to not answer if you don't feel like diving into a whole discussion about your own identity; I'd totally get it. Just a cis gay dude trying to understand a bit more.
I bet they meant "male-bodied non-binary person."