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Been on my own since I as 17. The first few years were rough to say the least.
I worked 2 jobs, 30-60 hrs per week and went to college. I shared shitty apartments with some pretty creepy people. I moved so constantly I ended up paying for a post office box so I could get my mail. I did not have a vehicle (no car) so I rode a bike for up to 60 miles per day. Even all that wasn't enough without government grants and student loans to pay for college.
Food was something that I ate when I had it. I spent a few months with mybe 4-5 real meals. Cornflakes and ramen where the bulk of my diet for a while.
I took the first professional job I could find. It was terrible but it paid well. I gained 50lbs to be at a healthy weight the first year. The next few years I jumped around jobs until I landed in one I liked.
The last few weeks before I graduated college I met my wife. Her family has become mine over the past 25 years.
Today my income alone puts us in the top 10% of earners. My wife makes close to the same. At many crucual times in our lifes we've taken advantage of government assistance. To be blunt, it's not possible to pull yourself up by your bootstraps. You need a helping hand once in a while no matter how small.
That brings back memories. Oats and pasta were my wonder foods. You can do a lot with those and a couple extra dollars, or shoplifting a jar of sauce/bottle of milk if you're penniless and starving.