"b-but bears are actually dangerous!" Shut the hell up.
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I don't know why you're being downvoted nobody has ever actually just acquiesced and listened to me so thank you for listening to me and not arguing with me.
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,Thanks back to you
Hey there, I've just downvoted you. The reason why is that you would have never told this to a woman who said "I definitely trust [women] more than I trust [men]. I don't know what part of what I said sounds like that when I said I don’t trust [men], not people.", therefore you're patronizing this person, dismissing their claims and experiences and unusual and ultimately unworthy of being taken seriously. Yes, of course it sounds like there's very likely some trauma behind her position, just as there's trauma behind the women who say they'd choose the bear, but that is no proper reason to dismiss them when they want to use their experiences as a parting point to discuss social issues.
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,Lol I got you my homie. To be fair, I did feel patronized.. but we solved it so that's wonderful and fantastic and we are still having a good end of our weekend, goddammnit are we not.
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,It's funny that you downvoted this person because you didn't take the time to wonder if his question was genuinely asked or not ... I took the time, as the person who was supposed to be offended in the first place, to tell this person that they were wrong... and then they corrected themselves... it's almost like you want to be offended on my behalf, but this guy did not upset me as much as your comment currently is upsetting me so that's fucking hilarious.
Dismissing someone's concerns as a mental health issue. That's actually horrifyingly toxic and completely illogical in this case. This is what people mean when they talk about concern trolling.
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,That's not what therapy is for. If there is a real life problem causing you anxiety or anger the solution is to fix that problem of to remove yourself from the situation. Talking to a therapist is not a solution to real life problems. Anxiety, fear, and anger all exist for a reason and they can all be productive emotions in the right context. The only time you should see a therapist for a rational concern is if said concern can't practically be escaped or fixed.
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sdfsafPTSD happens after a traumatic event. In order to start treatment you first need to be removed from the situation that caused the trauma. You don't get treated for it if it's an ongoing problem. You understand this, right?
What have I ignored exactly?
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sdfsafThe external issue here isn't a personal one though. It's that women can be dangerous just like men are dangerous though typically in different ways. Not enough people acknowledge this.
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sdfsafYou said something that comes across as condescending and as concern trolling. That's why you got downvoted to hell.
It took me that long to figure out that you were actually being sincere and that you apparently didn't get the above statement that not all women are safe. Though your understanding of what therapy is useful for definitely needs some work. You don't go to therapy for being scared of something that's legitimately dangerous. You're supposed to be scared.