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‘More like therapists’: adult virgins turn to Nevada brothels for sex – and healing (www.theguardian.com)

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At Bella’s Hacienda Ranch, a brothel on the outskirts of the rural Nevada truckstop town of Wells, a half-priced special for adult male virgins this May has gone off with a bang.

What may seem like a publicity stunt has compassion behind it. May is Mental Health Awareness Month in the US, and the brothel’s 74-year-old namesake owner and operator, Madam Bella Cummins, wants to raise awareness of what she describes as a “virginity epidemic”. She blames digital platforms supplanting young people’s in-person, “IRL” experiences, leading to stunted social development. Brothels, she argues, offer a safe space to work through resulting feelings of anxiety, shame and isolation.

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There is evidence that adult virginity and sexual inexperience are on the rise in the US, Canada and other western countries, according to Marie-Aude Boislard, director of the Canada Research Chair in developmental sexology. Approximately 15% of individuals born in the 1990s are virgins in their early 20s, the highest rate of sexual inactivity since 1985. Many report “difficult emotions” and interpersonal struggles due to social stigma, the dearth of visibility of sexual inexperience in adulthood and a lack of intimacy.

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[–] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 33 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

As a tween and young teen I was fascinated by psychology and "sexual dysfunction" (textbook term at the time). I wrote one of my science final reports (our finals were original reports, not tests) on common sexual dysfunctions amongst American women. My mom was supportive until she saw I was watching a documentary on sexual surrogate therapy that was basically exactly the same thing as described in this article. Even at 14 I could see the benefits of being treated by a trained sexual therapist. Ultimately I went into tech so I wouldn't starve. I did alright but the idea professional sexual therapy always stuck with me. I hope someday it becomes widely available, especially given the current changes that have come with modern human interaction.

EDIT: I think it was this documentary. It's been a while.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt9019530