Ask Lemmygrad

Thank you for sharing your family story. I didn't mean to suggest that we should dismiss the stories of Chinese people as wrong just because they don't conform to an idealist history. I don't think that you think I said this—I just wanted to reiterate that and support your caveat for anyone else reading.

The broader problem is with techniques that are used to shut down westerners from praising China just because a Chinese person has a different story (you didn't do this). The person trying to shut down a pro-China narrative may dishonestly rely on (1) the relative rarity of westerners having visited China and (2) the pro-China westerner's anti-racism. The west is usually only open to 'China experts' if they're negative about China. The same people who accept that kind of narrative are often the same people who tell the pro-China westerners that they can't be right because a Chinese person said XYZ.

Thanks again for your family story. I can't imagine forgiving my government for doing anything close to that! Can I ask (feel free to say no): do these kinds of stories make it into Chinese fiction/drama, etc? Or do people dislike talking about it, either because it's traumatic, taboo, etc?