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It's different as I grow. But right now, affordable mental health support and a friend.
I moved to a new state and have no friends and work from home.
I'm trying my best but... I wish it was easier
It’s so hard to find friends after a big move. I moved to another state in 2021 and still haven’t made any friends other than people my wife was already friends with. Although I still struggled with depression even when I had a big friend group. Affordable mental health support has done the most for me. Having the opportunity to talk to an amazing therapist every week for more than a year has done absolute wonders for my outlook.
That said, I still live with depression. I’m on a medication that helps me have fewer of my worse days and more of my better ones but that doesn’t always work and it’s only a supplement to regular effective therapy itself.
Learning to live with a disorder is an amazing step in the process. If depression was easy to eliminate, the world would be a much different place
Sometimes I have a hard time coming to terms with the fact that if I never had depression I would be a fundamentally different person, and there are good qualities of mine that I don’t believe I would have acquired without that exact factor in my life. Like yes I would prefer an existence free of the pain depression has put me through but that person would not be me. Living with depression is a fact of my life. There’s a lot of help out there and I have benefited greatly from it but it will to some extent always be an ongoing process.
This is very very true! I take medication and it's great but it's not enough. Mental health support (therapy) is so important
It really is. So many times I have mentioned how great therapy has been for me and how glad I am that I found the right one for me, only to have people tell me they never would’ve taken me for someone who needed one. I always reply that it’s my firm belief that even the healthiest of mentalities can benefit from good therapy.
Agreed. Also we all have our eyes on so much these days (we see ALL the news from everywhere) there is no way that doesn't affect people. Plus here in the US, the divide between rich and poor grows. The stress of seemingly innocuous every day life has it's toll and I don't think a lot of people recognize that in them selves yet.
I totally agree, mental health for everyone even for people who are healthy!
Moved to a new city for university. Managed to find some friends there. One moved away and another just quit on our group, so I just have the one friend that actually lives here now. Now, I also have roommates and we're on friendly terms, but we don't really do stuff together, you know?
Anyway, I quit university after changing my subjects around and still not feeling like I belong, and now I genuinely have no idea how I would even meet new people. Like, I'm decent enough at making friends in the right environment, like a classroom or something, but I'm not very good at keeping in touch or making new friends outside of that environment.
I have some great online friends, known these guys for like a decade at this point, and some back home, which is close enough to visit, but, you know, you don't always want meeting up with friends to be an event, you know? Sometimes you just wanna hang out without buying a train ticket.
Yeah I get that. I'm in the same boat about making friends. I'm great at it in situations where I see them everyday. But working from home... So I'm trying to meet up with a gaming group at a store once a week. Monday is my first official day so I'll see how it goes