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No one is suggesting it is black and white, but perhaps you. Everyone here is saying that one should not blindly trust parental controls. I don’t see anyone saying “do away with parental controls.”
I honestly think you are projecting some polarity on to people that doesn’t exist. Further, your response of “do you have kids?” Isn’t engaging in any meaningful conversation. You are simply seeking to discredit the person you are responding to without discussing any nuance whatsoever. I’m not sure how you think discrediting someone for purely not having kids is not black and white. You are literally saying if someone doesn’t have kids, their opinion and thoughts are irrelevant. That’s pretty black and white thinking if you ask me.
Now would be a good time to remind you that the comment that you are so vociferously defending is:
The clear implication being that people who use parental controls are not present in their kids' lives. You really don't see this hot take as a black and white assesment of the situation? I personally don't see how it could be more black and white.
This is the clearest indication of someone who has never tried to balance screen time with the needs of parenting, because anyone who had sincerely attempted to walk this line would know that it's not as easy as just "being present". There are plenty of cases where the kids need access to technology without it taking over their lives. I would posit that any parent who could take such a hot take seriously is probably a shit parent who never actually tried walking this fine line.
And if you think that someone who has 0 experience in something as difficult as parenting is equally qualified as someone with decades of experience, you must either not be a parent or be a terrible one. Because I'm a far better parent now than I was 20 years ago, and anyone who had gone through this without getting better probably was never trying very hard to begin with.
Actually, you have been all over this thread with the same commentary so it’s not just this thread that we are conversing. If you want to be a purist about it, I kind of agree with the comment. I see way, way too many parents who are not present and just hand their kids technology because it is easier. Are you telling me you do that think parents like that exist? I didn’t say you were that parent, no one did, but as a general comment, I agree with it.
Look dude, I get it, your an IT professional and parental controls are right up your ally. It is one way to approach the problem, but it is not the only way. Everyone is simply saying it’s an insufficient approach to handling the whole situation due to the complexities you acknowledge.
If you ask me, you took a random internet comment way too personally. It wasn’t directed at you, but you clearly interpreted it that way. There absolutely are plenty of parents who are not present. The comment was directed at them. If you are not that, go ahead and walk away from the snarky internet comment.
Of course you’re a better parent with experience. No one suggested otherwise. You’re not a brain surgeon though and I’m not going to pat you on the back for procreating and figuring out how to raise your kids. You really want people to praise you for doing a basic human function. When your kid wins a Nobel prize, maybe I’ll pat you on the back. I’m going to assume that like most of us, you’re average, you’re kids are average and that’s all cool. Not going to pat you on the back for existing.