That's not me, but I don't really feel like it's particularly helpful to be in someone's life if that's the way you look at it. Especially if it's a situation where your own standards have changed while theirs haven't.

Honestly, I don't really want to be spending my time around people who look down on me at all, full stop. Whatever the reason they may have, why have people in your life socially whose company you don't enjoy? I used to put up with a lot of that, largely when I was broke and directionless, but it's not really worth it. There are so many people out there, why not find some who are on the same page?

That doesn't have to attempt to be a position of moral superiority or putting your nose up about lack of responsibility. It can just not be a good fit. Lots of people aren't a good fit for one another.

[–] SamboT@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It's just a support network... peers that believe in you to do better things.

If you can't take criticism then you have every right to shut out people who are concerned about you and toke instead.

I personally felt bad about myself when I was using weed to medicate. What was freedom became something I couldn't escape from. Many people might not want to be where they are and want help to function. You never know if that person needs support.

On the other hand if you are functioning and know that you've earned what you enjoy, you can probably handle someone voicing concern.

[–] PostmodernPythia@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I used weed to medicate when every drug my doctors gave me failed for years. Because of smoking weed every day for years, I lived long enough to take things that actually treat my problem, and was immediately able to drop my weed consumption as much as I liked. I do it maybe 2-3 times a week now. How do you tell someone who’s addicted from someone using it to medicate something else when nothing’s available, from the outside?

I also think the word “addiction” is so broadly used as to be practically useless at this point. I could stop weed, no problem. If I try to get off lithium, withdrawal city. But you don’t hear people talking about lithium addiction. Plus, if we’re using the same word for responses to heroin, weed, and porn, we need better vocabulary.

[–] Meowoem@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 year ago

Yeah keep away from people who look down on you or others, they're doing it because they're angry at you/the world and they will take it out on you every chance they get - doesn't matter if their excuse is that you smoke, don't dress how they like, listen to the wrong music for them, aren't green enough or are too green... If they look down on you they will work to make their emotions reality by pushing you down.