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How do you feel you've aged? (piefed.social)

submitted 3 months ago by cashmaggot@piefed.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Are you radically different than your younger self? Are there key elements that have stayed the same? Most parts? Do you feel as if you've followed the "roadmap of life" or forged your own path? Have there been "chapters" or do things all sort of slide into one contiguous flow? Share what you'd like!

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[–] cashmaggot@piefed.social 3 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I heard someone say thirties are the new twenties. I don't know if they're saying that because life expectancy went up (I think it came back down since then?) or because they were being catchy like a Cosmo article. But I am super glad your hard work paid off, because nothing is lovelier than mastery =)!

[–] tamal3@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

I'm living that way bc the economy was so bad in my 20s, and I feel like I've missed out. Couldn't afford a house, or kids, or travel. I'm doing a little better now but a decade passed without me having many options.

[–] cashmaggot@piefed.social 1 points 3 months ago

I think about this sometimes. In a way it's a super antiquated idealism. And while you might be missing out in some aspects, you might actually have a more varied series of experiences because you're not tied down to any one particular spot. I mean you're paying someone else's mortgage (plus some change), but I figured I would point out the kinda muddy bright side? Eh.

I don't know your life or your living situation but if you have some change daycations are always fun. Bring a buddy, do simple shit, go as far out as you can take in a car (and still drive back). It costs way less than you think, and you get to do some stupid shit and it's a really good time for some off-the wall talks. So actually, bring someone you like talking to. If you aren't about that life, I used to grab the cheapest bus tickets I could find (I'm mostly talking Megabus which is only in certain locations...) pack a backpack chill at hostels and eat trashy to save money. So like, takeout rice - gobs of it. A loaf of bread and a chunk of cheese - sammich! That kinda crap. But you can get around and do fun stuff even if you're broke as a joke as long as you, you know - don't have things dependant on you. So it's kinda like...all up to what you've got going on. But daycations are choice, and I really hope you give a go if you have the time and a (little bit) of money. Pack food (or snacks if you're gunna grab food) because you will get hungry. Pack water. Please for the love of god pack water!

[–] will_a113@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I think they say this because they’re in their 30s now and would prefer to still be in their 20s (saying that as a 40 is the new 30 guy)

[–] cashmaggot@piefed.social 1 points 3 months ago

Hahaha, you're funny! Hahaha! Aww man, hahaha! You know, a friend and I had a laugh the other day because we've got another friend who we both love to death but will be "21" forever. Hahahaha!