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Autistic people's feelings mostly misread – empathy works both ways, research reveals (www.brunel.ac.uk)

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[–] aStonedSanta@lemm.ee 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Most of my human interaction is in a complete state of confusion on how the other person is emotionally feeling. At some point I decided I’m a good enough soul I can just let my ADHD/tism flow. But man some typicals don’t understand when you tell them. “Sorry I am divergent so I miss things.” No I don’t remember the first three things you said during your complaint at me. I was trying to figure out why your face looked angry when I haven’t interacted with you and it’s directed at me. Seems too illogical for me so I’m stunned rather than able to focus. And now you are annoyed cause I just seem aloof and your very direct complaint was ignored. Lmao. Communication is a mess sometimes and it sucks when you aren’t even aware of why and the other party is.

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

I wish I could say I "got it" immediately and never got grumpy with people, but I'd be lying.

But I've noticed that what you said about trusting your goodness and letting it flow is fairly common. It's pretty rare to run into someone that's divergent that's being mean or has ill intent by default. The more open folks are, the more direct, I find that they're also more likely to be good as their intent. Which I think is pretty damn cool