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What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
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Oh I just realized this one too, a few seconds ago. I wonder how many times I've said not really when I should have said yes??
Probably about as many times as I should have! 🤦😂
oh well
How many people were flirting with us or just trying to be friends with us, and we were totally oblivious??
I would imagine quite a bit, can be hard to tell with NT people, though I generally can pick up quite a bit though I have had quite a few people just randomly ask me out or what not in the past so they can misread me being interested in them
oh yeah 🤦
took me way too long to figure out that people were reading my natural cheer and enthusiasm as romantic interest instead of just the general interest I intended
Yeah I get that a lot also funny because I'm ace and just my natural way of talking can be misread as flirtation or just because I'd listen to people talk about stuff lol people are weird
One of my weirder experiences in my college years was walking home from one of my retail jobs, one that was unfortunately close to a "scene kid" hangout where I found the squealing screaming valley girls loitering around insufferably loud and I hated having to clean up the restroom after they regularly trashed it, often ten at a time... and there they were, rolling up and honking and squealing at me.
And they offered me a ride down the road where I was going. I accepted, squeezing myself into a car packed with scene girls.
They seemed confused that I just sat there, annoyed, but glad to get off my feet for a while. Did they expect me to paw at them or something? I found them annoying, not hot, especially because I was some years older than any of them and the way they carried themselves was gratingly immature.
My lack of interest in them seemed to get them excited, like, I was forbidden fruit or something. Made me more uncomfortable and I politely took my leave once the car went far enough.
They started being nicer to me from then on, even trashing the restroom less while still loitering.
I wouldn't know, maybe they expected something to happen but lbecause you didn't do anything maybe they were thankful.
I'd have been the same, I tend to shut down if there is a lot of people. Like I'll only really talk when spoken to so verbally I would be quiet and it would be misread as there something wrong lol. Depending on the people I would typically sit and happily listen to what goes on or listen to a radio or something if they were annoying lol I'm generally polite regardless.
Literally me 😭😭😭😭
Girl invites me over to watch a movie. I watch the fucking movie and eat a bag of popcorn. Go home.
God this one happened to me and I only realized the fumble I'd made like two years after the fact 'cause she was like. The homie, we'd often take our breaks and hit the smoke pit at the same time, one time when she'd gone back home for a holiday, she actually brought me back a jar of apple pie moonshine because I'd mentioned never knowing shiners who flavored their stuff-- I just thought she was one of the most considerate besties I'd ever had.
Never mind the fact that I know what tattoos she has and exactly where they are, I just thought she was the homie. Been kickin' myself ever since.