I had access to extra time and all that for maths, which I have always struggled with learning. I never felt justified in using them, told myself I was just dumb, not trying hard enough to learn. It didn't matter that I was losing sleep, and still not improving, there was something I could somehow magically fix if I just kept pushing myself through the rock in my way.

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 2 months ago

For me that was basically all the not science, math, PE, or art classes.

All trying harder in those classes did was make me feel shittier when I failed.

Managed to graduate on time though through a Herculean effort of basically doing 3 years of high school during my senior year after my guidance counselor figured out that I could do online classes to make up credits during the school year.

I flew through that shit like a rocketship through the stratosphere all because he said that he wanted to see how far I could get in one year because he "got the clearance" to give me as much as I could take and that he believed in me.

It felt good to have someone believe in me for once.

[–] wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 months ago

there was something I could somehow magically fix if I just kept pushing myself through the rock in my way.

This is one of the worst "thought traps" out there. The biggest change in my life was when I decided to learn to work around/with my flaws rather than through/against them.

I don't mean give up and never try to improve, like a post I've seen here where someone got mad at their friends because their friends should just expect them to be late because ADHD. I mean stuff like that I set as many alarms and reminders as it takes, rather than deluding myself that "one alarm will be fine if I pay attention".