Blåhaj Lemmy is a Lemmy instance attached to blahaj.zone. This is a group for questions or discussions relevant to either instance.
Speaking of which, I was in a discussion about that yesterday:
I specifically avoid .ml and .world because the collective behavior (i.e., hostility, downvote trolling, etc.) is so much like Reddit.
Beehaw, Hexbear and Blahaj have all disabled downvotes, but Blahaj is the only one that's decent, which is why I'm here.
(I would link directly to these if I could, but am having issues with that.)
For what it's worth, Discuit is also a generally friendly place.
For what it’s worth, Discuit is also a generally friendly place.
Less than 200 weekly active users. Beehaw's Local feed is around the same, and still allow to access other Lemmy communities
I gotta check out Beehaw sometime. They’re part of the friendlier bloc of instances and they have rubber stamped Lemmy.ca the seal of approval.
Look, I really appreciate your numerous posts and comments in the RedditAlternatives subreddit, promoting Lemmy.
As for me, it's Discuit and local Lemmy feeds because I prefer that village vibe.
Yep yep yep, it's very confrontational and getting worse by the day
I don't agree its as bad or worse than Reddit which is packaged fury everywhere. However, the last few months tempers have certainly risen and bad-faith takes and antagonism are more visible in some communities. There seems to be a lot more right-wing people, or centerist apologists at least, than there were before the US election results and I think those results might play a part - emboldening some to speak up and causing so much stress in others that they lash out where they wouldn't have before.
Just make liberal use of the blocking options and take your time to find your people.
I know you're venting, and there's not much to say to help.
I am genuinely surprised that you've found lemmy more unwelcoming than reddit. Yeah, it runs higher to snark here, but there's less outright nastiness. But on either platform, it usually is going to come down to the community and the type of community.
You know, gaming communities tend to run high to assholes because gamers run high to assholes. Same with specific anime series or other fandoms. Politics is always a shitty subject matter to talk about. That kind of thing. But, you step into one of the knife communities on lemmy, and you don't find the kind of aggressive jackassery that's available on reddit ones (not all of those, a couple managed to keep good mods during the debacle).
It sucks that people suck. Genuinely, I'm not dismissing your experience. I haven't found any corner of the internet that doesn't have suckitude due to sucky people, though some specific communities/subs/forums moderate for a civil and chill atmosphere. The jerks still pop up in those places, but they get whack-a-moled soon enough.
Yeah, I do think it comes down on whatever communities you're in which varies what the experience be like. Lemmy is very open-source focus which great asking for support and even finding interesting FOSS project but terrible how angry they get anything corporate or proprietary related and even they expectation for newbies to do.
You're going to likely interpret the following as snark or more anger, but I promise you it's not. I ask the following in good faith: if you encounter folks who believe that large corporations, generally, and the use of proprietary software/hardware by those corporations, specifically, are having harmful effects on humanity, do you expect those folks to respond without emotion when those subjects are broached? If so, why? Is it because you disagree with their assessment harm or is it because you believe that anger is never acceptable? Something else perhaps?
There are those who believe that even when confronting brutality and viscous exploitation, those who stand in opposition may only politely ask for change. Some other folks believe that these calls for restraint serve only to uphold and support the exploiters and the brutalizers.
You seem to be coming from a good place and your desire to get away from reddit probably reflects a belief that there's something wrong there. But maybe take a step back and ask yourself if there's a good reason that people seem angry?
You're going to likely interpret the following as snark or more anger, but I promise you it's not. I ask the following in good faith: if you encounter folks who believe that large corporations, generally, and the use of proprietary software/hardware by those corporations, specifically, are having harmful effects on humanity, do you expect those folks to respond without emotion when those subjects are broached? If so, why?
I do believe that large corporation should be held accountable for whenever they done anything shady and suggest alternatives as well as state the pros and cons of it.
My issue is them replying angrily at the people that happens to use it, not even knowing why they use it instead of the alternative, if the alternative can delivers what they can already do. Not all alternative are "one size, fit all" and sadly, some are more a compromise rather than they would get any benefit from using it.
You seem to be coming from a good place and your desire to get away from reddit probably reflects a belief that there's something wrong there. But maybe take a step back and ask yourself if there's a good reason that people seem angry?
I saw it the whole thing more as them assuming I want an community to mainly talk crap about older generation which isn't the case. To me, I vision the Gen-Z community I was wondering exist in Lemmy being like sort of like "90s kids" Facebook group which post meme related their childhood and stuff they grew up with. Again, not trying to do some generation war and talk crap at them.
If some have read my reply to others, they would realized that. But instead, they jump into conclusion so I felt like I was being yelled at for being a idiot for even asking and get accused for something I wasn't even thinking about.
If the tone is something like:
"I'm not too sure how good idea is having separate community for generation is as we're aleardy divided personally. But you find it better joining any community you find interesting"
I wouldn't be too upset and won't feel attacked and I can reply saying "It isn't meant to be a divide, rather..". But instead, they begin with "Fuck Gen-whatever" and be passive aggressive to me. That what annoyed me the most.
Seems reasonable to be honest
one of the knife communities on lemmy
Which ones do you recommend?
!pocketknife@lemmy.world
Those are the two I like the best. Both are relatively slow compared to the reddit ones, but everyone is really chill.
There's also !edc@sopuli.xyz. It isn't a knife community, but it's knife friendly, and while it's slower than me on a cold morning, the user base is great when they're active.
Thanks!
No worries :)
Lemmy is full of echo chambers. People afraid to have a conversation with people with other opinions. A simple word will trigger them, its like you can all be wrong together.