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I'll check it out. See what this alpha API thing is all about.

Guide also updated now, too.

That one is old, maybe Ada forgot to update.

blahaj-20250508 is the new goodness.

@ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone does a fantastic job of moderating, and it constantly amazes me that she manages to keep her cool (and calms me down when I get riled up too!).

Thanks for being the moderator to my sysadmin, babe. I couldn't do it without you.

Ada, by far, has the most moderation experience and level head of the both of us.

If I was moderating this place it'd be a barren wasteland with salted and scorched earth as far as the eyes can see and a list of rules as long as your arm which keeps getting longer every time you look as I try to keep up with the rules lawyers.

When we first setup Blåhaj Zone with Ada, we discussed exactly this scenario and Ada said that you'll never create a set of rules that are comprehensive enough to defeat those that are intent on being horrible human beings and trying to make a safe space for queer and gender diverse people unsafe. And instead of keeping the space safe you'll spend all your time and effort refining and defending the intricacies of the rules.

Instead of doing that, we want a safe space, so the guiding principle is don't make it unsafe.

Obviously some people need more clarification on what safety means to us, but really if you need more than what we have provided to "get it", then you are the kind of person who would make it unsafe just by being present.

Most decent human beings can grok "be kind and respect each other" as a set square.

There's only two (really one) admins

Ooof, that's a bit unfair don't you think?

While it is true that I do the majority of the work keeping our servers running behind the scenes for you all, it's still a bit rough to say Ada doesn't pull her own weight! 😊

So this was at the very start of the s02e10 episode - "Pegasus".

I think it's because a lot of her fans were like "hang on, she's just misunderstood, she's not really transphobic, just doesn't want those fake transes going into women's spaces", and Rowling kept it pretty vague, open for misinterpretation, not really ever able to be pinned down as actually being provably transphobic in the minds of many.

But something happened recently and it tipped her over the edge, from keeping her donations low key and her transphobia aimed at the theoretical "not really a woman 'trans-identified-male' boogeyman-woman" (who doesn't really exist), to outright making open donations to anti-trans groups and attacking real trans women.

All the sudden her supporters are like... Wait, this is not who we thought you meant… Where are these scary men? The ones invading women's spaces that you were talking about?

I also agree.

While I couldn't care less (it's their body and bodily autonomy is super important to me), I'd be a little hurt if they didn't tell me about it.

In that case I'd be more interested in talking to my partner to try and understand why they felt that they couldn't talk to me about it and needed to keep it a secret.

I asked my AI and that was its thought also.

I had emergency cosmetic surgery after my accident and remember up to the anaesthesia counting down from ten to about four, and then waking up afterwards.

We aren't defeferated from them. That's different from hosting that content ourselves though.

I'm not personally against piracy, however hosting that kind of content here ourselves would put our primary reason for creating this space (that of providing a safe social space for trans and LGBTQIA+ people) at risk.

I just wanted to point that out before we get a whole bunch of piracy subs created on our instance that we'd have to remove.