Asklemmy

It says we are all a bunch Fonzies here, and what is Fonzie?

Depends on context - if it's a yes/no question or something that can be replied to with a simple "great" or "okay", thumbs up serves as a "yes" or as a gesture that the person has read the message and doesn't have any problems with it.

It might be considered rude though for more complex discussions, where you need to respond in sentences

I'm with you but it's a generational thing. Are you a millennial?

I basically use it as a way to acknowledge that I saw a message but have nothing further to ask or add.

Depends on context for me.

In private messages outside of work, yes, it comes across passive aggressive and is a hard stop to a conversation. In work context though, it's pretty common on teams as an acknowledgement, though I still think it's nicer to use like a heart react then actually reply.

yes 👍

I found it rude but not anymore and I have to really think about it. On facebook messenger, the default emoji is 👍 and during my stay on that platform (~2011-2017) it was regarded as a rude, low effort dismissal, at least inside my circles.

Nowadays, i double take and find that people don't indent to be rude to me. After all, i'm not on facebook anymore and these people weren't in my circle.

Nope, not at all.

You see it as dismissive. Low effort reply, like they couldn't be bothered. It's not inviting continued conversation so you see it as someone telling you to stop talking to them.

If I were to guess. In your eyes. They might as well have replied with "cool story bro".

Which is now forever a sarcastic term and no one regardless of what you say, will believe that you actually found their story cool.

It depends on the context and the person for me.

I'll reply with the all mighty answer:

It depends.

Depends on the people you are talking to I'd say.

Sometimes

No.

Personally i do. Same as the 😉 wink smiley... comes across as a bit of a cunt in my opinion.

Could be because there were shitty people that would use it in condescending ways at me.

👎

I used to but then at work everyone always uses the thumbs up on slack. So I got used to it. Nowadays it depends on the context of the convo

Just like a curt "yes" or even "yes sir" can be seen as somewhat rude in some contexts, so to can its emoji equivalent.

It really depends on the age of the sender.

30s and younger: Fairly dismissive response. Not outright insulting but pretty rude.

40s and older: genuinely meant as an earnest acknowledgement of your message.

I can respond with 👍 and if people don't like it then next time I probably wouldn't respond to there texts with anything at all. The thumbs up IS me putting in the extra effort to acknowledge & respond to received messages. Also, it was my avatar on my previous college online profile.

Just try to remember that there is almost always more than one way to interpret a body of text even if it's a single character.

Usually

Not rude at all.

I had this discussion with my wife a few weeks ago. She did that to a work colleague who took offense to it. I explained that that's because her colleague is about 8 years younger than us.

Basically, if the recipient is 35 and under, it's offensive. If they're 40 and older, it's not. Anywhere in between, look for context.

It has too much function to take it as a dismissive reply... unless it's obvious.

For work I use it all the time to confirm I got an email. I can see how it may ruffle feathers, but my other colleagues don't even confirm they got the message. Using the thumbs up also helps me organize what I need to do because half it is just in emails I gave a thumbs up to.

If I just replied 👍 to this post, I can see how that would be bullshit but that's not how Im using it.

Its kinda like saying "sir" or "ma'am." Some people are too good for it imo and some people may have good reasons to feel uneasy about it, but to me it is respectful to use it as long as you aren't clearly a shit head.