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My first trans joy (europe.pub)
submitted 1 week ago by Una@europe.pub to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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Hi! I'm not yet transitioning because transphobia and I'm scared, but I'm doing small steps and growing my hair and I got small bangs, by recommendation from trans women on social media, and this is first time I was able to look at myself and see androgynous /fem person and it makes me happy, unfortunately others don't see me such but I'm at the beginning of my self discovery. Honestly I feel happy, hope you are having great day 🩷🩷 Honestly, what do y'all think about me, am I ugly? Will I look beautiful after transition?

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[–] fantacyde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Grats on the happiness with that!

Been growing my hair out from always having a buzz cut most recently and it does feel great to me. I am wanting to express myself in a more feminine way and it really is a great start and wonderful feeling seeing the progress when I look in the mirror!

:)

[–] Una@europe.pub 1 points 3 hours ago

Yeah, I always had like short hair, no special haircuts just short, mostly because to please others. Like when someone says I should get haircut because long hair I just did. Idk but I much more enjoy longer hair. 🩷🩷

[–] yonder@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

this is first time I was able to look at myself and see androgynous /fem person and it makes me happy

Hell yeah! You honestly look androgynous to me, and growing out your hair would put you solidly in the femme range to me. You look great now and I honestly imagine you'll be beautiful after your transition.

[–] Una@europe.pub 7 points 1 week ago

Yeah, idk this look I find more fem than I used to be with short hair but obviously I am not talking about "passing", unfortunately, but one day. I can't wait one day to graduate find a job somewhere far away from home and start transitioning. πŸ’™πŸ’œπŸ©·

[–] FloMo@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You’re beautiful and will only get more stunning with time!

It’s not easy, but you’re doing it and we’re proud of you <3

[–] Una@europe.pub 4 points 1 week ago

Thanks, it is nice being able to smile when looking at myself for the first time

[–] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You first of all look great! Secondly, it's really brave of you to put your face on the internet like that. I'd want to get criticism of my own, but wouldn't feel secure even under a throwaway account that I delete afterwards.

[–] Una@europe.pub 7 points 1 week ago

Thanks, honestly whenever you are ready you don't have to post yourself if you don't want to πŸ©·πŸ’œπŸ’™. And honestly I am scared to post myself on more mainstream platforms like reddit, tiktok etc but fedi is great to me because noone I know uses it and I can be myself without fear of outing myself to wrong person.

[–] knightly@pawb.social 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You're already pretty, but you're going to be stunning after the first few months of hormone therapy.

How long do you want your hair?

[–] Una@europe.pub 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Thank you, honestly idk maybe shoulders length idk yet I'll just experiment

[–] knightly@pawb.social 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah! Figuring out what works for you is half the fun!

Waiting a couple of years while your hair grows is the not-fun half. XD

[–] Una@europe.pub 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah, why does it take so long? And it's great feeling when I look at my picture and smile for the first time <3

[–] knightly@pawb.social 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I know that was a rhetorical question, but it's actually kind of fascinating. Hairs are tubes of dead, fully-keratinized epilitheal cells, so the limiting factor for hair growing speed is the rate at which those specialized skin cells can be reproduced. In short, your hair only grows as fast as your skin. =D

Anyways, it's always awesome to see trans people smiling. I hope you get the Day-1 rush of gender euphoria when you start your hormone therapy like I did. 😺

[–] Una@europe.pub 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Thanks, just thinking about starting HRT (in a vacuum) makes me happy, but then I go back to earth and become scared because what if others see what to say to them and how to explain myself.

[–] knightly@pawb.social 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I had the exact same fear, and I let it keep me from starting E for way too long, but it's turned out to be wholly unfounded so far.

I'm almost two years in and I can tell you that allocishet folks never notice things they aren't expecting to see. I can wear tight jeans and pad my bra out to C-cups, but unless I'm wearing a blouse and a skirt I won't even get second glances, much less questions. Heck, most furries don't realize it until I point at my tits. XD

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Thanks for sharing <3 Being able to see your own potential is really hard, so it's great that you can!

You have nice soft features that I think will work super well in a feminine face. You are going to love what HRT can do for you.

[–] Una@europe.pub 5 points 1 week ago

Thanks <3 <3