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I didn't think transition would help as much as it did. I didn't even know this much happiness was possible.
That a person had to reject or be distressed by their natal anatomy or natural hormone levels in order to be trans. I'm Non-Binary, and therefore trans. People might think I'm a cis woman pretending to be trans since I am AFAB and I don't take hormones or desire any surgeries, but I'm still trans, because NonBinary is trans and I am not cis ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ
That hadn't occured to me as a cis dude. Thanks for pointing it out!
You're welcome :)
@SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world I wonder what the distain towards my comment is. Do you disagree with the assessment that NonBinary is trans or are you just downvoting everything I post in communities you aren't banned from?
First one is transphobic, second one is harassment. Both are bannable offenses here.
https://lemvotes.org/comment/lemmy.dbzer0.com/comment/19334280
I thought alllllll the trans people I ever knew about, just kinda luckily happened to be born looking that way? Nobody ever told me about like... transition stuff, hormones, etc lolll
I thought that I had to be a binary women if I transitioned :3
Mood
The main misconception that stopped my egg cracking was that trans people "always knew" they had the wrong body, whereas I, clearly male (look, I've got a dick and everything) merely wanted really badly to be a girl. Totally different, ah well.
Also I was really strongly opposed to cosmetic stuff: surgeries, tattoos, piercings etc. Like, easily deal-breaker level. I always thought it was kind of a weird hangup and I should talk to someone about it, but I'd get panic attacks whenever I thought too hard about it so kind of let it be. Turns out the reason I was so obsessed with body modification was because I wanted to change mine and I was jealous of anyone else who could.
And just the general misogyny that comes from growing up in an almost exclusively male environment.
that i would still feel the same inside just look more how i wanted.
Do you mean you feel different now? In what way?
I feel so different it's astonishing. I'm dialing in my HRT for mono therapy right now and I was able to tell when I had test in me because it changes the nature of my thoughts!
In general i'm much calmer, more inclined to get along with my partner and family, and i just feel more connected to the things i care about. Violent thoughts/power fantasies have vanished. My partner says i'm much more mellow and cheerful and easy to get along with.
A bit of that is just depression from dysphoria being lifted but it definitely changed who I am, and much more than I thought it could. I had no idea that so much of what I thought of as personality came from hormones!
The one quasi-negative is I went from horn-dog to basically asexual. Absolutely zero desire for sexual anything although i'm not repulsed just disinterested now. Having to maintain function is an absolute c h o r e.
Ah, I know what you mean. It's so nice not to be constantly on edge. Sexual desire does come back eventually (and different!), but it takes a while.
I was almost expecting a 180ยฐ shift in perspective, kind of "this is how it feels to be a woman" and was a bit disappointed that it was still me inside. But I guess that's validating in a way: I was actually a woman all along...