swearing like an injured sailor under my breath
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"If you are going through hell, keep going". Churchill
From Lord of the Rings: "Not all who wander are lost."
From the Old Kingdom Series: "Does the walker choose the path, or does the path choose the walker?"
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If you are going through some shit, keep going.
"It's only a gameshow". Big Brother contestants sang it to themselves on one of the seasons back in the 00s. My colleagues and I did the same during a rough patch at a former company I worked for.
I like it because it's a reminder that things can seem immovably important until you remove yourself from the context of that situation and assess it from the outside.
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Just keep swimming
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Pain is life - trevor cadieu
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Be your best you as long as you can; then be a right bastard.
Tomorrow will be better; even if it's just not today.
Amor fati.
*shrug shoulders*
Eh…
I don’t have the vocabulary for a good mantra like most of you. But a shoulder shrug and a “what are you gonna do about it” kind of noise is enough for me.
The closest I come is "Calgon, take me away."
Don't worry about things you can't change.
Generally just "it'll be over soon"
But not in a super depressivt way, just when I'm super bored or waiting for something or in a tight spot working on an issue I just kinda zone out and imagine myself looking back on this while relaxing.
Hard times are never permanent.
Living in the "self esteem" part of Maslow's pirimid when you are battling basic needs aka allergies, sleep, dehydration, dimentia, etc is a good way to be depressed. Focus on preservation of assets and restoring basic functions.
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Tough titties.
I have two:
Way back when I was 16, I worked as a host at a busy restaurant, I would get really stressed when we had a long line at the door (the wait would easily get up to 1 hour on weekends), and I just started repeating, "you can only do what you can do, you can't do any more". As someone who has always really struggled with the need to please everyone all the time, it's really helpful when I'm running busy events (I work as an events manager now) or when anything is approaching FUBAR because of things beyond my control.
On a broader, life-changes perspective, I always loved a quote from The Riches (said by the actor now known as Suzy Eddie Izzard),
"Life's a river kid, you gotta go where it takes you."
Its helped a very risk-adverse me take some huge leaps and I've not regretted any of them.
I heard my partner's dad working on some IKEA patio furniture or something in his backyard when he messed something up and yelled, "Nothing's ever easy!" In the moment, it was hilarious. Then it was kind of sad. Then it was true. Many years later that shit still sticks with me. Nothing ever is fucking easy. And any time you feel like you're getting a bit too sure of yourself or when you need to keep in mind everything you've gotten through so far, it's good to remind yourself of that.
Simple - "Everything will be ok"
Never been wrong
Yet
May I suggest a reading of the Voltaire book Candide? Phrases like "Everything will be ok" or as the book often suggests "all is for the best" in the "best of all possible worlds" will take on a whole new meaning.
The book is funny most of the time but it has a very sharp cynical edge about life and positive thinking and how it doesn't mean much in the face of most life changing events.
One I like from Malazan Book of the Fallen: "I am not yet done." The mantra of a man who's duty it was to bear the souls of the fallen for his faith as it crushed him.
Seems a little weird to make your life mantra a meme phrase anyways.
Mine is the motto from my high school lacrosse team, of all things. I was 15, an angsty teenager, the team sucked and lost most our games. But our coach was relentlessly positive. The motto was a Latin phrase that roughly translates to "if you're going to do something, commit to it". Basically, no half ass efforts. That stuck with me all the way through until 11 years later when I had it incorporated into a tattoo design.
Whatever intrinsic motivation you pick, it's gotta have a little more meaning to you than being the flavor of the month on the internet, or it will always lose its magic.
Yes Exists. (to the tune of The Chemical Brothers - The Test)
Thæs ofereode Thisses swa mæg
That was overcome So may this be.
From Deors lament. A Middle English poem.
Can't stop won't stop.
"I have to get past this, why not now"
Get back up.
Above all, no matter how many times you get hit, can you get back up? --Gwen Stacy, Into the Spider-Verse
From one of Patton Oswald's stand up specials, he shares his late wife's mantra, as a devout atheist: "It's chaos. Be kind." Nothing means anything, nothing happens for a reason, things just happen, they only have the meaning we bring to them, be kind.