When I was 16, I wrote an entire fucking novel (literally) for a girl I had a crush on. I would write 5 pages or so a day and slip them into her locker. She was actually also a friend of mine and she thought it was weird but charming. Once I finished the book I didn't tell her it was me until the last time we saw each other, on graduation day. So fucking cringe haha. She asked why I never said anything and that she would have gone out with me if I had asked. I didn't know what to say and just said good luck in college and scampered off. My god. Looking back at that makes me turn red still. I still have that novel in a binder somewhere around here.
this post was submitted on 17 Jul 2023
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Not a therapist, but I feel like you’re beating yourself up for a completely normal experience with teenage romance. Hormones can be a dick and make you do stupid things. The important thing is that you recognized where you crossed the line.
How do you feel about your social life?
Just know that you are not alone.
You need to start looking towards the good things in your life. As a bridge, pick up a hobby to keep yourself occupied and to keep yourself going. Once you start to see the good in yourself and value yourself you'll start to give off that energy. Keep going and you'll find someone that values you, and that judgmental look burned into your retina will eventually be a thing of the past.
I understand that though, that fear that people think you're creepy or unappealing. If it helps any, most of the time that isn't the case, it's just how you see yourself. I find that working out helps improve that internal image in myself, maybe it'll do the same for you.
I hope that you gleam some useful information from this. 😅