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[–] BangelaQuirkel@lemmy.world 65 points 10 months ago (7 children)

I don’t like being asked about my day. Don’t know if I’m alone in this.

[–] thefartographer@lemm.ee 55 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Oh, why? Did you have a bad day? Wanna talk about it?

[–] Caesium@lemmy.world 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

meh, it's just surface level talk with no substance. the person who asks me how my day is usually doesn't give a rats ass about how I'm feeling, and I don't care either. maybe it's just my cynical retail soul but after the first hundred times I'm asked that question I just don't like hearing it

[–] thefartographer@lemm.ee 33 points 10 months ago (1 children)

There's an easy solution for that. Genuinely tell them how your day is going and include details. The people who wanna know will get a kick out of your candor and the others will know better than to ever fucking ask you again.

[–] Rodeo@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Found the German.

Pro tip: never ask a German "how's it going?" They don't see that sentence as a greeting, it is a legitimate question that they will answer in excruciating detail.

[–] thefartographer@lemm.ee 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I'm actually the descendent of Polish Jews. But with the friendliness of a German!

Huh... That can't possibly be what I meant to say...

Also, I reject your pro-tip! If I ask someone how they're doing or how it's going, I'm genuinely hoping for an open and honest answer.

[–] Chinchillax@lemm.ee 23 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Is it because it’s strangers asking? And you feel you have to pretend to be “fine?”

If so, I get that. Strangers and even acquaintances can be scary.

I love being asked how my day is by my partner though.

[–] betterdeadthanreddit@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago (2 children)

How was your day by your partner?

[–] Sotuanduso@lemm.ee 4 points 10 months ago

I would also like to know how that happened.

[–] Chinchillax@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

Y’know, it was way better than I thought it’d be. Tough, but I got a lot accomplished

[–] mightyfoolish@lemmy.world 22 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

My last job had a whole bunch of people like you. I had to mentally put people in a few different lists

  1. People that are OK with being greeted and like when you ask how their day is going.
  2. People that get mad if you don't greet them and get mad if you ask them how their day is going.
  3. People that get angry if you acknowledge their existence.

It was truly a quest for survival when you have 200 coworkers in an open space.

[–] Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I am not here, do not acknowledge me, if you must then do it by Teams message, i am going to appear offline because do not disturb is too existent

[–] mightyfoolish@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

Presses red button to add @Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone to List 3

[–] Shou@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago

Probably not.

I don't care if it's small talk. But being asked about your day with genuine intrest. That's good. Especially after having done something exciting the past weeks.

[–] Rodeo@lemmy.ca 7 points 10 months ago

That's why you just say, "good thanks," and NEVER EVER ask them in return.

Many people ask how someone's day is because they actually want to tell you about their day. And the normal thing is for people to return the question. So you get trapped into listening to someone complain about their day because you retuned their small talk.

Instead, just don't engage in the small talk by answering but not asking in return.

A lot of people get pretty put off by it, but they're either not able to articulate why, or they realize that "but you didn't ask me about my day!" is a stupid thing to be mad about. So the end result is those people find a different victim who's attention they can consume, and I am spared.

[–] brbposting@sh.itjust.works 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I don’t like being asked about your day either, Bangela :(

How was your 2023 (emoji responses accepted!)?

[–] Mamertine@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] Thassodar@lemm.ee 4 points 10 months ago

You were a hotdog guard until you took an arrow to the knee?

[–] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Honest question then: how would someone approach you and express interest in your well-being while attempting to bond or develop some common ground just a teeny bit? Sports? Weather? TV? Keep it at "hello"? Thank you.

[–] Rodeo@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 months ago

If you're really interested then just ask about someone's hobbies. What do they like to do in their spare time?

Opening with sports is a great way to make me never want to talk to you. Instead of trying to guess what they like, just ask them.

[–] ech@lemm.ee 49 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The first rule of Kind Club is you tell everyone about Kind Club.

[–] Gregorech@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago

So we shouldn't mention the rainbow soap is unicorns?

[–] HonoraryMancunian@lemmy.world 30 points 10 months ago

This should be in Wholesome not Funny