right? if my being trans transed a parent's gender I'd be over the moon that I wasn't alone and had someone to figure this out with

I mean

I found trans porn on my dad's computer

If he came out as trans I would have a lot of trauma as well to process since when I was a child he did everything in his power to keep me from being trans

Because she will never see her former (current?) father again, as he is now TransParent.