As a man all I can say is "fair enough".
this post was submitted on 13 Feb 2024
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Just end us already
Line forms behind me.
TBF we haven’t set the bar particularly high.
Speak for yourself, I'm an absolute treasure.
old, buried underground and forgotten?
Hey, that's hysterical, I'm gonna use that on my boyfriend real soon
If all you want is attention and you’re not willing to reciprocate, then yeah, maybe computer is your best hope.
Maybe it's more like not able rather than not willing. As someone in a happy relationship that can't imagine my life without it, relationships are hard, and modern life is hard.
I mean, may they be happy. If they are not ready or able to commit to a relationship, but they need comfort in our increasingly lonely world, this may be a band-aid. A good solution would be to find out why people are lonely in the first place, and address it.
Is it loneliness or is it selfishness? They could get conversation online. This is a specific kind of “all about you” experience.
I’m not really arguing against it. If a person is happier having those emotions generated by a computer, good for them.
It’s kind of like porn, or a romance novel. Sometimes fiction is better than reality.
This was literally a joke in 30 Rock: Pay per view "porn for women" where it was literally just a hot guy saying into the camera "Tell me how your day was", "I think you were right", and "Well it's his loss"
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If men did this they would be labeled pathetic...
You're 100% correct lol. Men who do this are roundly mocked and called sad creepy incels.
That said, the culture and dating scene for women in China is pretty awful. My ex was Chinese and had some awful dating stories, now she avoids dating Chinese men. Easy for her to do as she left china, but not everybody can/wants to.
We need to learn to be a little less mean to anybody who uses these apps. They're likely doing it because they see little alternative, yet still want affection. Calling them losers, be they male or female, achieves nothing other than hurting them.
Only thing it does is makes mean people feel better about themselves by punching down.
Men do this and a company straight up profited from it until they tried to go back to be sponsor friendly and gimped their AI personas service
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Aren't we already with this? I never see anyone going "You go queen!" over someone's virtual bf
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We do and it is.
If an AI friend is "better" than a normal friend, it looks like something in the social environment is seriously broken.
I mean, it will be. The AI friend is always available, always knows what to say, never fights with you, and never messes up (ideally).
However, all those things are part of the human element: and at the end, you’re still talking to a computer. The AIs are just trying to please you. A person can actually love you, and that’s something else. And I’d take that over the perfect chatbot any day.
The AI friend is always available, always knows what to say, never fights with you, and never messes up (ideally).
And isn't that what people really want in a relationship? A perfect, frictionless yes-person trained to parrot whatever you wanted to hear six weeks ago.
The AIs are just trying to please you.
Its a bit worse than that. Monetized social media is designed to provoke engagement. So the AI isn't trying to please you, its trying to maximize your utilization. That means establishing a clingy, desperate, attention seeking (ie, toxic) relationship that keeps you looking at your phone for as long as possible.
Its pleasurable in the same way a heroin addiction is pleasurable.
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people love to abuse each other, and those who wish to live peaceful life become more distanced from social environment, my grandma said back in the day that "in her times there were no abuse and crime" i was like, yeah right, there wasn't internet back then where people could refugee to, so everyone has only one choice, and that's to be silent and endure
From what I understand there is a shortage of women in China compared to men due to the one child policy and most parents wanting sons so that makes a bad problem even worse.
if she's happy, I don't see the issue. She's not hurting anybody and seems to have a good grasp of the situation. She's aware it's not real, and still participates.
The issue is that society is so atomizing and broken people are turning to chatbots for affection
it varies from person to person. she seems to be aware it's not real. she's not lying to herself. she's just enjoying it.
Would you say the same for young men using AI girlfriend apps?
These are actually two parts of the same positive feedback loop.
Young men satisfy (in emotional sense) themselves with chatbots, lose ability to communicate with young women, thus young women see fewer young men they can communicate with, turn to chatbots, thus young men see fewer young women able to communicate and so on.
I would even say that this in some sense started with young women, not because I'm an incel or something, just drowning themselves in all kinds of romantic fan fiction etc is something girls apparently do more. And even romantic chatbots are not necessarily more accessible\understandable for young men, - despite all the social legacy girls can be quite tech-savvy when they want to find, say, some anime series. My sister unironically could understand some Chinese text because it was easier to find something on some Chinese sites (I'm not mixing up China and Japan here and the series were Japanese), she'd also have plenty of scary Chinese-style Chinese-language software installed under her user.
Why did I type this last paragraph, I wonder.
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Everyone wants the fiction. Nobody wants someone else's problems.
Things like this make me wonder if the uncanny valley exists because we've previously developed computer technology in the past, and it destroyed civilization, taking with it everyone who couldn't easily distinguish between humans and AI.
These headlines are more often just native ads for the apps being reported on. Don't lose sleep over an eyeball-grabbing "techxplore.com" article based on a handful of testimonials from alpha users.
It's hardly an idea that I only just formed from a headline. It's something I've been thinking about for a long time, which only seems to collect more support as time goes on. One of the most prominent events I can recall was when TwitchCon built a foam pit for people to jump into, with a single layer of foam blocks over solid concrete, then even after a girl broke her back in it they still kept going. Computers are doing something very weird to people's brains.
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Awesome plot basis
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Sounds like what they actually want in a man is a therapist.
A savvy young man might take note that "listening" is a desired trait in boyfriends.
I hope you don't think it's sarcasm, because it's true for many lonely people. They need a therapist first. Yep, one they can feel something romantic for, that seemingly happens very often, just have to know some boundaries which don't exist in an equal two-sided normal relationship.
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Talk for hours with an Ai? No thanks, sounds like torture... Unless you count problem solving with code discussions...
It's like Joi from Blade Runner 2049.
Joi could phase into a hooker so you could fuck her. We're not there... yet
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That's just a friend, then. I would think a boyfriend would be a friend you could be physically affectionate to, which obviously you can't with a chatbot. I'm not against people having virtual friends, I just don't see why it's a boyfriend.
Depends on their style of emotional investment I guess. Not all romantic relationships are sexual, so physical intimacy isn't necessarily required. So it reasonably could be the same emotional attachment to the AI as it would be for a real person. Whether or not that is healthy is an entirely different topic, but having a virtual boyfriend is very possible.
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What about long distance relationships?
“Long distance is the wrong distance!”
-Liz Lemon, relationship expert
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or one woman, anyway.
Fair
Better than being "leftover". Now they are virtually married.
It's not too bad if the guy can actually make money driving Uber or something.
Saddest comment section below, damn
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