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Nothing. I keep walking.
I've matured enough to realize they were probably being abused at home. And while it wasn't fair they took it out on me, some people are dealt a really bad hand and aren't equipped with the tools or support to overcome it.
Also, they committed suicide recently so there's that.
Mine wasn't. He was celebrated for being an amateur boxing champion now he's a professional and pops up in the news where he's talked up as being great.
That's the American Dream in action. Claw, kill, and rape life till you "succeed" and get celebrated for it because you helped the plantation owner during your journey. That's the agreement. Favors for favors. There's nothing here for good honest genuine people.
Not American though. I'm from Northern Ireland and my bully was all Ireland champion at 15 and was even considered for the commonwealth games. Because we're a small place with a population of something like 8-9 million any time someone becomes successful at anything they're made a big deal of.
She hit and killed my dog, then bragged about it at school, so I hope it was with my bumper.
That's a sign of psicopathy
I took it as a sign of being a total bitch.
A few years after we'd left school, one of my bullies tried adding me on fb, and when I declined the request, they sent another, which I also declined.
I think I'd do the in-person equivalent of that.
Bold of you to assume I only had one. It was more like the whole class. Sometimes faculty was included.
There's nothing in particular I'd say to them, but it's always amusing seeing their children and the former classmates panicking at the idea that I might tell them about how their mommy and daddy were bullies.
Oof
My high school didn't have bullies. Or exclusive cliques. Where did you all go to school?
Bisexual kid in a small rural village in rural England during the height of the aids pandemic ๐
Mine did not really have cliques but there was definitely some bullying. I may have occasionally been involved in that. Nothing physical of course but words can be pretty fucking hurtful.
Same. My high school was chill and all the students were largely respectful to one another.
Middle and elementary school where a different story though. That shit was wild.
I will forever maintain that 8th graders are the most vicious people on this planet
My high school bully stopped bullying me when I fought back. After that, he and I were friendly. Not close friends, but friendly with each other.
I saw him about five years after high school at a Chinese buffet, and caught up with him a bit.
A couple years after that, he died in a car crash.
"Eat any good books lately?"
Gaslight them. And Apologize for bullying them.
I have absolutely no idea. "So how have you been doing since ruining my life? IV drug abuse? That's awesome, man, heard about that one through the grapevine and it gave me some... well, not joy, of course, but definitely a bit of grim satisfaction. Maybe there's something to this karma thing after all, eh?"
I worked with him on the same construction job for months. I never brought it up and he acted towards me like nothing ever happened. However it's clear to me that he never changed and is still more or less the same person than he was back then. If anything I only feel sorry for him. It's not his fault, he can't help himself.
Yeah, my biggest bully I ended up seeing in college. He pretended like nothing happened. He got drunk and pissed himself and then every time I heard his name it went hand in hand with worrying about him pissing himself when he drank. Soโฆ
Nothing. Until he returns the 200 dollars he stole, I am holding onto that grudge.
I showed them by having a successful and happy life. Nothing else needs to be said.
Funily enough, I did meet him a month or two ago. We just talked about where we are in our lives, was kinda ok. I thought about bringing up the past by an offhand comment at first, but let it go. It was no different than if I'd meet almost anyone from that school.
I've seen a few comments in this thread that make me wonder whether bullies actually know they're bullies. Everyone is the hero in their own story, but they must have known on some level.
I actually ran into one of my highschool bullies about 10 years after i graduated, i didn't recognize them, but they knew me they bought me a drink and apologized and we ended up playing a round of pool. People can change and I'm glad they did for the better.
Alpha actual to God hammer.
Requesting fire mission on my position.
Fire for effect.
I bumped into my high school abuser a few weeks ago. It's been 17 years. They didn't notice me thank god. I still had a small panic attack and had to like, process it. They really fucked me up though. Not a normal bully.
You've got ten seconds to beat it before I add you to the list of NSF casualties.
Didn't have any bullies in high school (thankfully), but my elementary school bully ended up becoming one of my better friends. Nothing crazy, kid was just a shithead when he was little, he moved to the other side of the district and I didn't see him again til HS. Completely different and really chill person by then.
What the fuck? I know for a fact you died.
The only way to know for sure... is if you're the one who killed her.
Lol what happened?
One died in a car accident, the other hung themselves
Seems that bullies have a poor mental health history.
No one bully me at school because my mom was a teacher in my elementary school, my dad was a teacher in my middle school, and my aunt was a teacher in my high school. I was literally bullet proof. The teachers gave me a hard time if I was slacking though and reported it to my parents. Couldn't even roll up my sleeves without my parents found out.
Wasn't really bullied in school somehow but if I were would probably just pretend not to recognise them/pretend they don't exist
Best way to get revenge imo, be successful and show them how little of an impact they've had on your life. Plus it's super low effort given I barely remember most people outside of my immediate social circle from school anyway
I forgive you.
I'm glad you have a lovely family, I'm glad all of you have lovely families.. sorry that you are bald and fat, but hey that's alright. I don't think I'll say hi next time, so please don't either.
-me being bullied by my dad's friend's kids. For a decade. They once broke my arm and hid me so I couldn't tell their parents.
I fucking hate them so much.
This happened to me, except it was primary school bully. I asked them if they remembered why, they said they think they thought I was weird, and I nodded while they pumped petrol into my car. Then I paid and left, and I have not seen them since.
Not entirely on topic but I remember when I started high school, I was a training and the bully was trying to be rude and intimidating. I didnโt know that he was a bully at the time but I still killed him with kindness. He was very confused and at a loss for words.
"Why am I not in my basement?"
You see, none of this stuff would happen if you stayed in the dank basement.
Hahh that bad?
I ended up befriending the few who tried to bully / antagonize me before graduation.
Haven't talked to them in forever, so probably would go to the nearest hang and catch up on life.
Hi there, hope your week's been going well.
What have you been up to?
I retired before 50, own my own home, have multiple degrees, and have a great family