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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned

Rules

1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them

2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.

3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith

4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!

Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input

RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed

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After 21 years, I have finally been diagnosed with ADHD (hexbear.net)

submitted 4 months ago by Moss@hexbear.net to c/neurodiverse@hexbear.net

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It feels like such a weight off of my back to have a real, solid report, from a medical professional, telling me that I have ADHD. I had a standard neurodivergent burnout experience, where I was good in primary school but in secondary school as a teenager, found that I was not achieving my potential. I always felt like I should have been doing better than I was. But it was so hard for me to bring my attention to things I didn't care about. Grades and attendance started slipping and I made sloppy mistakes.

Things only got worse once I moved out for college. Now I had no one to remind to empty bins and clean my room, to provide a consistent schedule like my parents had. I was procrastinating on assignments, even ones I wanted to do, until the last possible second - I remember turning in an assignment literally less than 10 seconds before the deadline. Sitting down and writing an essay was a Herculean task in my head, and instead of addressing it, I would avoid it. I would lie on my bed or go to the gym or talk with my friends, because it physically felt like I couldn't start a new task. And the more important they were, the less I wanted to do them. I told myself that I was just bad at being an adult, I lacked discipline and was facing the consequences of my laziness. But I was never able to change anything about it.

Now I know, for sure, why I'm like this, and how to change. I also know that I'm just lazy, my brain just kinda sucks and is not built for the kind of work that I have to do. I know that I can get treatment and that there are other people like me. Its such a relief.

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[–] SpanishSpaceAgency@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago

Literal same experience as me, except I was diagnosed even later.

I am so happy for you, the relief is immense. I hope therapy/meds/or whatever you try going forward works out for you heart-sickle

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago

I've been meaning to talk to my psych doctor about somehow getting an adhd test but I'm not sure how on medicaid and it's a non-profit place.

[–] FailedAtAdulting@hexbear.net 5 points 4 months ago

I had a similar experience except it all went south when I started uni. For the first time ever, I was in charge of my own schedule and I had no idea how to motivate myself to do, well, anything. I also told myself I was just bad at being an adult and lacked discipline and wasn't able to change anything about it either, even with 3 calendars/planners. Finally got diagnosed with ADHD this year and it's nice to know it's not just me being a lazy piece of shit (although I do have my lazy moments), it's my brain that's just different.

Hope your treatment goes well for you meow-hug

[–] fanbois@hexbear.net 2 points 3 months ago

Congratulations! meow-hug

It is genuinely amazing how entirely different people in different places of the world can have the exact same experience. I could have written that post almost word for word. Got my diagnosis last year (in my 30s) and it is exactly what you wrote: relief above all else. It ties my life story together. An invisible line steering towards chaos, that I have followed all my life.

Get some meds asap. They can be truly life-changing for us.