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[-] Chickenstalker@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

It is so that if the woman becomes pregnant, the recently ex-husband have to pay extra alimony for the child AND the child gets to inherit from the biological father. Regardless, the woman will get alimony until she remarries.

[-] r_wraith@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

Which is no longer necessary in a time in which paternity tests exist. You are the father of the child your re-married ex-wife just gave birth to, so you have to pay child-support and the child inherits from you. Simple.

[-] supermair@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Did people even bother reading the article? A medical exam is literally one of the ways listed to skip the period if a woman does not want to wait:

The period can be dismissed if the woman agrees to undergo a medical examination to prove she is not pregnant or if she remarries her ex-husband. The period also ends if a woman gives birth.
[-] r_wraith@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

So you think that this makes it fair? And easy for women to have tp prove not to be pregnant? What does this medical examination entail? I bet you that it is no simple blood test for hormones either but a physical examination by a Gynecologist.

[-] supermair@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 year ago

Well I am not sure if my definition of fair matches yours since it can be subjective. Does fair mean "same"? Can fair account for the fact that only one biological sex can become pregnant?

The focus is only on the fact that women have to wait a period of time before remarrying (min 3 months max the period of pregnancy) while conveniently ignoring the fact that the man has to financially support his ex wife during the entire period and take full financial responsibility of any child born even after the divorce. This waiting period ensures a man can't just kick out a woman one day and abandon a potential child without any obligations. So if the financial responsibility is not the same, is it unfair to men?

It is easy to see a headline and jump to conclusions but these topics are much more nuanced. We shouldn't only focus on rights but also responsibilities.

[-] r_wraith@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Have you read my original comment?
The man could as easily be financially responsible for a child born after marriage if paternity is proven through a simple test. In that case he would not have to support his ex-wife and she could get maried again. You take away her right to choose and justify that by saying that her ex-husband has to financially support her. Other countries have the same obligations for financial support (if a woman is not able to work to fend for herself) without these prohibitions. Nuanced enough?

[-] supermair@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago

We seem to be going in circles.

There is a solution that is applicable to any time and place, whether it is 1500 years ago or today, rural or urban, rich or poor. This does not impact the divorce or make it any harder, it simply ensures a man does not skip on his obligations and a child is given what they are entitled to.

The only caveat is women must wait to remarry (NOT divorce) a certain period - the vast majority of cases where there is no pregnancy is 3 months. The man continues to financially support the woman regardless of whether she can fend for herself or not, but again, you won't see any posts showing how "unfair" that is. Now if someone does not want to wait this period they can get a test and skip this period. You are making unsubstantiated claims that the test is difficult or more difficult than a praternity test.

How many people does this actually effect? How many women do you know remarry within 3 months of a divorce? Or get married and the new husband being OK with her being pregnant with another man's baby during the marriage? This issue is being blown out of proportion when there are legitimate grievances and issues affecting women across the world. Some countries (e.g. Phillipines, Vatican city) don't even allow divorces to begin with. Interestingly enough, Muslims in Phillipines can get divorced while Christians can't. Surely those affect more women and affect them more seriously?

I am sorry if I have not conveyed my point still, but I won't be replying further. Take care.

[-] r_wraith@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

No, I think I understood your point, I just don't agree with it. A woman's rights are curtailed for a certain amount of time and a man's are not. This law once had a (debatable) justification, which has been made irrelevant by advances in the medical sciences (DNA paternity tests have been publicly available since the 1980s). To stick to this law after over 40 years, to me, points to another motive.

[-] ElSapo@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

In Italy we have the same law, it's just another safeguard to prevent excessive succession disputes, I don't see what's the problem.

[-] hh93@lemm.ee 0 points 1 year ago

The problem is if such a law only applies to the women

[-] ElSapo@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Men cannot get pregnant, what would be the point of having it apply to men too?

[-] Ronno@kbin.social 0 points 1 year ago

Maybe an unpopular opinion, but I think this should apply to everyone. It is good practice to give your new relationship some time before jumping in the marriage boat.

[-] WookieMunster@kbin.social 0 points 1 year ago

It should be a choice you personally make, not a forced decision by the state

[-] JasSmith@kbin.social -1 points 1 year ago

In a world in which marriage didn’t confer any special rights or obligations, I would agree. But marriage is a state-sponsored activity which affords the married all kids of benefits and obligations. Inasmuch, the state does have a say in how it is conducted. Personally, I’m fine with getting the government out of marriages. Everything should be done via legal agreement. No more de facto marriages and alimony. Adults can make informed decisions about their future. They should have the right to make their own choices about what’s fair and reasonable.

[-] Kekzkrieger@feddit.de 0 points 1 year ago

Men were not effected by that rule, of course not these degenerated religious fanatics never limit themselves but try to cut into the life of others

[-] JasSmith@kbin.social -1 points 1 year ago

This is one of my complaints about Islam. Countries which practise Islamic law always relegate women to second class citizenship. For example, the testimony of a man is worth three women. In other words, any man can rape a woman and unless she has a man to testify, she’d need three women to testify on her behalf - assuming they witnessed the event.

[-] sycamore@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

Unlike all the other religions, where women are always treated well.

[-] JasSmith@kbin.social -5 points 1 year ago

There are currently no Christian nations which treat women like this. No religion or ideology is perfect, but Islam is uniquely hateful towards women.

[-] tom@lemmy.fmhy.ml -1 points 1 year ago

Three to one is such an absurd parody of justice.

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