This, of course, applies to everything. Just don't shame people. Lead by example.
@stefan@stefanbohacek.online @dangillmor@mastodon.social I am trying to encourage my mom to join, but she has no idea how to pick a server. I know people will say it doesn't matter, but it really does. I don't know how to advise her, beyond me deciding to set up my own server for her and I or something like that.
@queenofnewyork Yes, between the lack of options for exporting posts, at least on Mastodon, and the occasional beef between server admins that results in defederation...it can be a bit tricky to figure out which server to pick.
My advice would be: it doesn't matter *for your first server*.
@queenofnewyork@newsie.social I'd maybe suggest she signs up on the same server as you are, just to try things out a bit, without getting too attached to her posting history, and then see if she needs to find a server that suits her better after a few days.