I see it like this: Men who can’t cook and clean and wash and do laundry are called boys. If you are a grown man who needs a woman to help you with basic survival skills, you have a lot of growing up to do. Being entirely dependent on others to get you through the day is about the least manly thing I can imagine.
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I would hesistate to word the last sentence like that though I get where you’re coming from. It’s more like being unwilling to learn these basic skills because they believe that they’re above them somehow.
It’s the dudes who bitch and moan about how women need to do all the chores around the house when it’s clear that they couldn’t even figure out how to boil water on their own. The dipshits who don’t even know how to clean their own ass properly.
Lately I've been telling myself, "I am my own dream husband" — I find it so easy to pour love into a partnership and take care of a woman — but less so serving myself the same way
If I had a dream husband, he would take care of the home and himself, just as stated. He would be handsome and balanced, fit and financially capable. It feels good to find my independent masculinity in this way, alone
My grandpa, my dad, and my wife's dad never got taught how to cook at all. My mom taught all my brothers and we share a love for cooking today. Half our conversation at (Canadian) Thanksgiving was about cooking and recipes.
I think it's an important skill for everyone, and it's definitely a taking care of yourself skill.
Cooking is cheaper than buying cooked/packaged food, it's healthier, it's rewarding, and girls love it when you cook for them. There are no downsides to learning, and there are recipes for every budget or amount of time online.