WeirdyTrip

HE hurt YOU. My heart breaks for you. He is immature and not worth your time, block him and move on with your life. It may be hard to see right now, but someone who makes you feel so terrible is not the person for you. I get the feeling that you want to be in a relationship more than you care about who that relationship is with. That is a dangerous, emotionally draining road that I want so badly for you not to go down.

You have value, you are beautiful inside and out, and love starts with you celebrating that within yourself.

Girl, I am saying this with so much love and compassion for you- any person who is worried about body count is not worth your time. Him asking alone would be enough of a red flag for me that I would be telling him we're done if I were in your shoes. And then when he hears 5, he is sobbing? Massive red flag, I don't care how nice he may seem, he is not mature enough to be in a relationship and you deserve better.

Sex is just a thing that two consenting adults can do, you having sex before you met him is nothing to be ashamed of, especially if you are practicing safe sex. It's also pretty unhealthy for you to take on the burden of his shame over your sexual life. If you were able to get him to come back, I fear his jealousy and insecurity would be riddled throughout your relationship. I spent all of my 20's in relationships with insecure men (I am a cishet woman) and I want to try to advise you against making a similar mistake. I could have been enjoying those ten years either on my own, or trying to find someone who really valued me. But instead I took on their problems and when I look back on my twenties I SO FUCKING WISH I had broken up with those men sooner (it was 2 long term relationships, one was 6 years, the other was ~3.5 years). I don't know how old you are, but I get a young vibe and I just want you to know that you will find someone who sees your beauty and isn't worried about such trivial things. "Forced love the worst love, throw that shit in the can." -a line from YBN Cordae's song Family Matters https://youtu.be/j8Xg0Y60Tr4

As for messaging people for money and some of the concerns about breaking his trust (as well as being accosted by online horndogs), the best you can do is learn from that outcome. I am not going to shit on people who sell companionship, whether that's just chatting, pics, or otherwise, but as you have found, men online who engage in this trade are dick pic machines. My personal takeaway is that whatever money you made was not worth the stress and the damage it wrought in your personal life. I won't, and can't, tell you not to do it, but to me it doesn't seem worth it.

Take care of yourself first and foremost, and know your value 💖

It Ain't Over Til It's Over In My Ass

(Lenny Kravitz)

Assuming local anesthetic was used to minimize the pain, a cut to the femoral artery might do it quickly. Google search says it only takes 3-5 minutes, sometimes less depending on the severity of the cut. Might be able to hasten things if you cut the femoral in each leg, too

Oooo, she's got a bong now!

I both need this and hate this

Was reading through this thread and wanted to say idk wtf these other people are flipping out about. I have owned cats for 15 years and not once have I ever bothered to trim nails on any cat I have had in my care. It's a pain in the ass for me and for them, and I have never in all those years had any health issues arise from not trimming. The other people are right that trimming is different than declawing. Declawing is indeed very uncool, but trimming is not harmful as long as you don't trim into the quick of the nail. However, maintaining that it's an absolute necessity is simply wrong. At best, it's nice for us humans because they are less likely to scratch you on accident (or on purpose if your cat is an asshole) or less able to fuck up your furniture. And while I haven't ever had a cat who needed trimming for health reasons, I can acknowledge it's not an impossibility so maybe there are specific scenarios where trimming is required.

Also, I kinda thought all cat owners knew this but per the meltdowns of some other people responding to you, apparently not; cats naturally shed their nails. There are layers to each nail, and when the outermost sheath is loose enough, scratching on something pulls it away. It's not bloody or painful, it's totally natural. If you give cats plenty of scratching post toys around the house, the act of scratching on those posts will help them to maintain their own nail health without the stress of me having to restrain them for clipping. Sure my cats have sharp claws, but tbh they know how to control their claws and I almost never get scratches from them. I'd say the only times I get scratched is if one of them is on my lap and something surprises them, like the doorbell ringing or the dogs suddenly barking, causing the cat to launch off my lap, lol.

To start, I am not an expert, just a single 30 year old woman who has had cats for a long time (wait, does that make me an expert??), so this is just my two cents.

I wouldn't call that a full on spat, tho it may have escalated if you hadn't intervened so it's hard to say, but overall I wouldn't worry too much about that specific interaction. My two occasionally get in worse disagreements, often because Hashi is a gremlin (who I love, but fr he has a lot of vinegar) and has a strong inclination to intrude on Ripley's space. Despite Ripley having to occasionally tell Hashi to fuck off, they still get along great like, 97% of the time.

Just reading body language, neither seemed to be too stressed out or upset. I feel like the feeding set up is a great way to give them positive associations with each other while ensuring they both have the ability to retreat if they want to. You could also take one of your resident cat's beds or favorite blankets and place it in the foster's space, ane vice versa, so that they can smell/investigate and get used to the other cat without actually being near each other. This plus time is the way I have introduced new cats to resident cats. The time will depend on how social- or not- either cat is, but more often than not they will acclimate eventually.

They are both adorable, btw 😍

Yee

I noticed, very cool website, will def bookmark it for future use!

For this one, I am thinking it might not be T.versi, but maybe something in Trametes? Some of my answers to the questions on the site don't quite match up;

1. It has a true pore surface (match)

2. Pores are pretty easily visible and large, also at places quite angular (not match)

3. Fuzzy/velvety cap (match)

4. Fresh caps are quite bright creamy white (not match)

5. Cap does have pretty distinct color zones (match)

6. This one is a little hard for me to determine since idk what is considered rigid vs flexible, I am not a very experienced forager and don't have a super vast depth of experience to compare to. I can pretty easily wiggle on the caps and they didn't snap off the stump, so to me they seem pretty thin and flexible? But maybe it's because the cap is still young and supple? (Unsure)

I was thinking it looked turkey-tail-esque! Interesting!

It's growing at the base of a viburnum, though I don't know what specific species in that genus.