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Yeah, this kind of thing makes me glad that I got banned from Reddit too. People jump on any excuse to shit on women there. The place seems progressive on the surface and has some pretty great feminist and queer communities but there has always been this underlying current there in the larger Reddit.

People dogpile and seem to almost take glee when there's a chance to shit on a woman for something. It gives me the impression that they just love to jump on any chance they get to go "See? The 'females' are also bad." But it comes with 10x the spite and hate, like with Ellen Pao versus anything that has happened on Reddit since. If they had a female CEO during the API thing, they would've tanked.

Another one of my favourites was a thread discussing a 10km fun run for mostly non serious athletes, where it was suggested that it was a little silly to have separate male and female categories (I think it might have even involveda woman getting best time but a lesser prize). And the thread kinda filled up with walls of text about hand grip strength and in depth analysis on Olympic athletes. For a fun run.

But imagine going around calling teenage girls "whores". What pieces of shit. Funnily enough, the comment that got me banned from Reddit was a comment calling out men in general for allowing men in general to be pieces of shit (in a subreddit meant for calling out misogyny no less). But calling teenage girls "whores" is ok. I guess I'd expect nothing less from the ex moderator of jailbait.

Is that really the same thing though? Just for a random example of the first actor that popped in my head, Chloe Grace Moretz probably doesn't have as big a social media following as Skibidi Kid or whereas I could probably find random people in the streets in the 3rd world country that I live in if I just had to start bringing up her name without any further details. Whereas Skibidi Kid is only known by the other Skibidi kids on that particular platform and probably won't even be a big deal next year, like Dab Kid.

I used to see people express the same sentiment towards YouTubers and it's the same deal there IMO. SaltyPeeDrinker or whatever might cause a big ruckus in certain circles on the internet and have a bunch of incel fans but outside of the internet and in the real world, nobody actually gives a fuck. Not in remotely the same way as with movie stars, music stars, sports stars etc. These people aren't that important or significant, they're just another feature of online brainrot.

Edit: I feel like online 'content' creators are related to actors and musicians in the same way that AI art is related to human art or reality TV is related to Breaking Bad.

Kiki's Delivery Service (could've been a little more than a week ago), When Marnie was There, The Tale of Princess Kaguya and currently about half way through Nausicaä of the Valley of Wind because I saw someone else here on Lemmy mention it. And I might throw in Pom Poko. I've watched all of the Ghibli movies before but the mood to rewatch a few took me.

Oh and also TNA Wrestling lmao.

Have a closer look :)

Oh! Fuck. To be honest, I didn't even want to take a look. That's definitely a relief and sorry for jumping to conclusions there.

As far as downvotes go I really get it. There's been one or two features that I've looked up and get the impression that development on this platform is fairly slow. I definitely get that this is the only way for it be implemented. Watch is a pity because it definitely has its drawbacks too.

Thanks for the response after I dug up this ancient post!

English or history. They were both subjects in high school where I could not even study and just wing it with walls of text. As long as spelling and grammar and shit were good and in the case of history, being able to refer to key things from the text book occasionally, I was scoring in the 90s. I've gone a bit feral in that regard over the years since then but if my path was to be a teacher, I think that's what I would've gone for.

Just want to add that a big deciding factor in that as well is how cool my english and history teachers in high school were. A married couple that I honestly credit with helping shape certain good parts of who I am. I was honestly borderline anarchistic (definitely anti-authoritarian) in my writings and I think they liked it and nurtured it a little bit.

One moment that stuck with me that I never realised the significance of was my history teacher bringing up how schools have a hidden curriculum. How beyond being taught how to behave in society, it also enforces cultural things like one race's set of norms and standards or teaching boys to behave like boys and girls to behave like girls (which is a line I even specifically remember him using). And I remember being a little bit outraged about the idea of a hidden curriculum and this fucking guy smiled and kept the conversation going and told me more.

Here's to you Mr. and Mrs. Owen. They'd be pretty old if they were still alive. I'd be either an english or history teacher because of them.

Edit: just for extra context, for high school I went a boarding school in a very Christian and religious small town and it wasn't the best of times for me, to say the least. There were a couple of decent teachers but most are wrinkled up, mean, dogmatic pieces of shit in my memory. So these two teachers were special.

Or the right wing way is just to say one thing and do another thing. Honestly to me as a non-American, it's pretty weird that the right wingers have latched onto this 'free speech' thing and that everyone just goes along with it because to me, things like free speech and freedom of expression always seemed like liberal or left wing ideals.

These guys talk about free speech, then burn a pile of schoolbooks that spread the 'librul' agenda and call for anyone that isn't white and Christian to be removed from their sight. The only small part of free speech that they're interested in is being able to call groups of people subhuman and they don't just want that sort of free speech, they want freedom from consequences too and act like getting punched in the mouth for saying the wrong thing in the wrong place isn't a thing in real life either. And more than that, based on the extreme pearl clutching when the 'tOlERanT lEFt' ever comes down from their high horses, they want that free speech for themselves and themselves only.

Basically they're liars, bad faith trolls and people that actually believe that their bigotry means that they stand for 'freedom'. They also 'care about the kids' but want to marry and fuck them and send them to the mines. So isn't it obvious by now that everything is opposite day with these people?

Hey there. I really hope you don't mind me replying to something ancient like this, I didn't want to make a whole new post about a subject that has already been fairly thoroughly discussed.

Personally, I basically never downvote anything and at first I loved that downvotes were disabled in this instance. But it also feels a little like having blinkers on, when everyone else is doing it anyway. Also, if a bigoted comment somewhere in a community in another instance gets 2 upvotes but 20 downvotes, does that mean that all I will see is the 2 upvotes? Wouldn't that give me the false impression that this particular community just doesn't care about bigotry?

Another thing is that I noticed there's a Truscum community here. Which I actually don't want to cause any wars over, so another reason that it's better I reply to this year old post. But based on a run in that I had on Reddit when I was still just starting to ask myself tough questions and address repressed feelings, the fact that they're here makes me uneasy. And probably attracts people from other instances here to downvote and spread the misery. I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes in horror movies, the call is coming from inside the house. So maybe it's futile trying to limit downvotes somewhere with downvotes baked in.

If I'm out of line, I apologise. I can see the value in this if you're only ever going to be commenting and participating in certain Blåhaj communities. So maybe that means that I still haven't found the right instance for me, personally. Which makes me sad because I actually love it here.

Just one last suggestion. Instead of making it a per user setting, is there no option to disable downvotes in specific communities? IMO that would be even better because it stops people from other instances downvoting too. Is this something to bring up with Lemmy devs?

I'm only a day in of trying to get away from this, and I'm mostly talking about Lemmy right now (but it would also work / help on Bluesky), but something that's already made a huge difference for me personally since yesterday, is separating the feeds. I woke up this morning and scrolled through content that didn't make me want to start a revolution first thing in the morning and I'm already having a pretty good day for it.

I decided to cut most news and politics out of my subscriptions, other than maybe some small communities that don't show up on 'All' on a 24 hour cycle. So from now on, my subscriptions will be only things that interest me and not enrage me. And 'All' is still there if I happen to feel like indulging in the rage for a little bit.

Also, finding a server that's more tailored to what you personally vibe with adds a 3rd option in the 'Local' tab for a feed that doesn't destroy your soul piece by piece.

So the 'Reddit' experience is still there in the 'All' tab, for everything. From rage to cool shit you haven't subscribed to yet. But you don't have to spend all day there. You can fill the other two tabs with stuff that makes you smile or learn or that aligns with your interests / career / philosophy or whatever. And spend more time there.

I was doing the same when I gave Bluesky a try, making use of different feeds for different things. Keep the news and politics in its own tab and only go there when you feel like catching up, or if you're specifically in the mood to rage against the machine.