This wasn’t in my community, but I worked with a guy once who was going through a rough breakup, and he shared some of the details with me and another coworker. Some of it was pretty wild.
Apparently, his girlfriend found out he’d been looking at videos from a particular model, who he said looked like someone he had a crush on but never pursued because he was in a relationship.
The twist is that this was during the whole "what are you doing, stepbro?" meme era, and the model he liked happened to make videos with those kinds of cheesy, over-the-top storylines because they were really popular at the time.
It gets even better, though. He wasn’t actually into that genre of content. He just liked the model, and to avoid awkwardness, he always muted the sound when he watched, saying that if you ignored the titles and kept it muted, you wouldn’t even know what kind of video it was. He also said the acting was so bad it was almost funny.
On its own, it might not seem like a big deal, but it stuck with me because after all that, he had to explain to his girlfriend that he had a crush on this girl they both knew or risk her thinking he was into that weird, meme-based content.
People with narcissistic traits often have a stronger drive for sex, but it’s not just about physical pleasure, it’s about the validation and sense of power that comes from being desired. There’s a deep satisfaction in knowing someone craves your presence, seeks you out, and can’t get enough of you. It's that sense of being wanted, admired, and even used that fuels the desire.