Well the bigger ones do take donations, and its working out fine.. you can see the same thing working on other fediverse platforms

When you tried to express your feelings, your friend made it about themselves. You are the one who was wronged, you are allowed to be upset! How could she even talk about autism this way, especially knowing you are one, and knowing you are listening to everything being said. Anyone would be upset hearing those things, even more so if it's from someone they trust enough to share something like that with! You are valid!