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So I'm trying to listen to the Yale Open lecture on their MUS 112 course. However, intermittently there's just ear splitting static noises which have no warning or disclaimer. So I'm trying to work while listening to it and every few videos my eardrums get violated for no reason. (First example is about 7ish minutes into lecture 3). Like goddamn how difficult would it have been to just audio mix those sections to be quieter?

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I say not anymore but to be honest I never knew what the problem was in the first place. First we thought it was the blood thinners, now I've tried literally all of them and I still have issues, so of course logically it means the thinners are not the problem. Or are they?

I've had a pretty bad week all of last week, actually since I went to see my dr on Monday last week. Socially though my symptoms are mostly inhibited, which makes it hard for people to see how bad it gets and I think they either don't really get it or outright think it's not as bad as I make it out to be (how can you make "it takes me 20 minutes to put on a t-shirt because I have to fight the urge to puke at every step" clearer). I was doing fine from the moment I got into my dr's office, but upon getting home symptoms came back pretty quickly. From Monday up to Friday evening I basically even had nausea while doing literally nothing (watching youtube videos, which sometimes even that is too much and literally the only thing I can do outside of watching paint dry is read a book).

I invited some friends on friday to celebrate one year of the PE and right up until they rang the door I was actively fighting not to puke, outright thinking "should I get it over it now and hopefully that way it gets better when they're here?". Just as I was thinking about it the door rang, I went to say hi, and 2 minutes later the symptoms disappeared for the entire night. I was actually doing pretty good, because even when I don't have nausea I can kinda feel something is wrong in the abdomen area. But I digress.

Since Friday night though? I've been doing pretty well. I feel like never before. But I also feel like it's gonna come back, because it's been going on for a year now and I don't believe it will just get up and leave like that out of nowhere.

The one thing that has changed in regards to the meds is I got back on Xarelto beginning in May after around 1.5 months without it.

What do you even do in this situation? When I tell people I'm doing better for the past 3 days only (to be clear) they think I'm cured. But I can also feel that physical activity such as walking triggers mild symptoms again. I don't think it's as simple as "oh he's doing better job done all good move on with your life".

I'm grateful that I've had some past few good days. I want to get better. But I also know with 99% certainty I'm not actually better, and doing anything will trigger back the symptoms again and I'll be back to square one. If the weather is good this week and I'm still feeling good I'll try to go take a walk and see how I fare, that's about the best troubleshooting I can do on my end.

What is even the problem at this point. It's not the medication but changing the medication makes things better for a little while. Social situations (depending) inhibit symptoms for a while. I say 'depending' because since a couple months ago going to my therapist does not stop the symptoms, she actually saw once how difficult it was for me to even talk (couldn't get more than 5 words out without getting the urge to puke). It's like, I can puke on the fucking side of the road while walking there, breathe heavy in the waiting room, and then as soon as they call me over I'm suddenly all good. There is a clear link with physical activity (of any kind) though. Sometimes after eating I also feel mild nausea and sometimes I don't. No idea what that means either.

My best guess at this time is something similar to how you can puke if you exercize on an empty stomach. This is your body's way of saying "I don't have the nutrients currently for what you're asking me to do so take it easy". In social situations, my body may decide that it needs to prioritize this over trying to send me a message or expel whatever it wants to expel that it can't. I have no idea but it seems to make sense to me.

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[Talking about american university] It's wierd. I'm not entirely lost as to what I wanna do. I know I want to do some kind of engineering (maybe urban affairs if I go crazy), but idk what I want to do specifically. Currently I'm tagged as Civil, but I've only done a couple classes exclusive to civil so I can still change it.

Honestly, I want to work in automation (i.e, making those dark factories in china that have been posted here on Lemmy [not that specifically but the same idea]) but people are not very helpful as to how likely I could do something like that or what degree I should get in relation to that.

My main 4 rn are civil, mechanical, electrical and industrial (although industrial is harder because id have to transfer universities). So anyway, just wanted to see if anyone here has any experience relating to this and wants to give any advice, and people here are usually not as judgemental as they are on reddit and this requires less commitment than scheduling an advisor appointment.Thank you in advance

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As always, if I win my benefit appeal I will have to explain any incoming money to the DWP. If anyone is able to contribute, please write a note in the box indicating that it's a gift from a friend/relative, as I am legally allowed to receive occasional gifts.

I'm in the middle of a disability benefit appeal, and so need to ask for help whenever there is something I need to buy. I've posted this on mutual aid but no response yet and it's sometimes hard to get a response there.

I'm still recovering from my last foot surgery two weeks ago. I thought I could make the remaining bandages from last time last long enough for this time too, but I'm nearly out, and the wounds aren't healed and are still oozing. I need at least a few weeks supply of bandages. I also need more iodine as the surgical site on the right foot is infected.

Because I have to keep the surgical sites and bandages dry I've been wearing waterproof shower boots, but they are letting water in, and if possible I need a new pair, as well as more waterproof shoe covers to wear in place of shoes (shoes are painful right now and rub against the surgical sites.)

I also need some basic toiletries, from shampoo to dental items to laundry disinfectant (helps keep surgical sites clean to disinfect clothes). Previously I've asked people to order items and send them to me but I know it can be difficult and frustrating ordering from various different websites and making sure everything is right, if anyone is willing to I would be grateful, but all of these items are available on amazon so I thought if anyone could send me an amazon gift card I could just order them myself.

This site takes crypto:

https://www.bitrefill.com/gb/en/gift-cards/amazon-uk/

The amazon site sells them but you might have to have a UK amazon account to buy one that I can use.

I would be extremely grateful for any help, whether it's a gift card or ordering items directly.

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I swear to God people will only display a modicum of care when disaster already has happened lol

Not a single drop of rain for weeks and ground water levels are rapidly declining but people don't care because it's nice weather at least. The government can't be arsed to do something unless it's to save farmers.

And when we inevitably have to ration our shit maybe then we will notice something's off. But it's not really popular to argue against good weather, I know.

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You never know when cell service and the internet could be unavailable or unsafe to use.

Downloading Organic Maps on your phone is free and allows you to have locally stored maps and navigation that works with GPS only.

Even downloading an entire country is usually under a GB depending on size and how many roads there are. You can even see some stores and stuff just like google maps.

Its easy to forget how much we rely on navigation when its always available. Bonus points it you pick up a cheap solar charger to keep your phone charged.

This isnt just useful for if things go bad. You can be on airplane mode and still use those maps so if your going to a protest or something and dont wanna be tracked its a great option. I use it for all my navigation personally.

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For those who didn’t know, I am a 29-year old gamer and college student. I was diagnosed with autism since early age.

I am very dependent on my pension and my aunt on my budget, however most of it went for food. So I have set this fundraising to help me cover college-related fees, free tuition couldn’t cover beyond intended purpose.

PS: My goal will include funds to buy a new phone.

Update: Thank you so very much for donating $495! I still raise my goal to $1000. I reset my starting goal to reach $1500 in total. Thank you everyone for helping me pay recent school costs.

Ko-fi: https://ko-fi.com/ahriboy/goal

Please if you can spare anything, Thank you!

(For more information,questions, Or for any other ways to send donations/gift cards/etc. if any of the above options don’t work for you, please DM me!!!)

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/4871988

CashApp/Venmo: allthetimesivedied

And to make matters worse I just woke up and need breakfast.

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So I watched this incredibly long titled thing "Conan O'Brien The Kennedy Center Mark Twain Prize for American Humor." I'm familiar with Conan and I think him getting an award for comedy is well deserved. I'm not posting about it to comment on the comedic content of the ceremony and other comedians doing a mixture of jokes, roasting, and praise before he receives the award at the end. A lot of it is fine as comedy and had me laughing at times.

What I do want to comment on is the political content of it and the limits of liberalism. Some of it was alright, all things considered, for a bunch of well-off comedians of the US making political comments. But at the end, among other things, Conan praises Mark Twain for his views; his opposition to racism, bullies, the kind of stuff that even a well-meaning liberal and a communist could agreed on, at least in spirit (whether they'd agree on how to make, for example, anti-racism a reality is another matter). Now there's a point in it where he goes on to quote Mark Twain and it's a very particular quote, from (I had not known this until writing this post, I went and researched it) The Czar's Soliloquy. The quote is famous, but somehow I doubt the rest of it is well known. It seems a case similar to those who would quote MLK talking about liberation and then tout him as a "peaceful protester".

The original quote is this:

...the true patriotism, the only rational patriotism, is loyalty to the Nation all the time, loyalty to the Government when it deserves it.

But a quick skim of The Czar's Soliloquy would indicate this is not intended as some universalizing quote about mindless loyalty to one's country as an institution.

Here is the quote in context:

How little the academical moralist knows of the tremendous moral force of massacre and assassination! .... Indeed there are going to be results! The nation is in labor; and by and by there will be a mighty birth — Patriotism ! To put it in rude, plain, unpalatable words — true patriotism, real patriotism : loyalty, not to a Family and a Fiction, but loyalty to the Nation itself !

.... There are twenty-five million families in Russia. There is a man-child at every mother's knee. If these were twenty-five million patriotic mothers, they would teach these man-children daily, saying : " Remember this, take it to heart, live by it, die for it if necessary: that our patriotism is medieval, outworn, obsolete; that the modern patriotism, the true patriotism, the only rational patriotism, is loyalty to the Nation all the time, loyalty to the Government when it deserves it."

See this for source: https://archive.org/details/jstor-25105366/page/n3/mode/2up?view=theater

In context, it would appear that Twain is talking about the Czar-ruled Russia, the conception of a Russia without a Czar, and is in fact chastising the kind of moralizing about political violence that liberals get shy around:

It is not for me to say it aloud, but to one on the inside — like me — this is naively funny; on its face, illogical. Our Family is above all law; there is no law that can reach us, restrain us, protect the people from us. Therefore, we are outlaws. Outlaws are a proper mark for any one's bullet. Ah ! what could our Family do without the moralist ? He has always been our stay, our support, our friend; to-day he is our only friend. Whenever there has been dark talk of assassination, he has come forward and saved us with his impressive maxim, "Forbear: nothing politically valuable was ever yet achieved by violence." He probably believes it. It is because he has by him no child's book of world-history to teach him that his maxim lacks the backing of statistics. All thrones have been established by violence; no regal tyranny has ever been overthrown except by violence; by violence my fathers set up our throne; by murder, treachery, perjury, torture, banishment and the prison they have held it for four centuries, and by these same arts I hold it to-day. There is no Romanoff of learning and experience but would reverse the maxim and say: "Nothing politically valuable was ever yet achieved except by violence."

Further digging led me to this: http://www.twainquotes.com/Revolution/revolution.html

In particular, this part is interesting:

UPDATE: MAY 2018

It is always a special discovery to be contacted by someone who is related to a person I have previously written about. In this case Michele Bonder, who is the great niece of Zinovy and Yakov Sverdlov, wrote this week with more information on her family. Zinovy met Mark Twain when he accompanied Maxim Gorky to the United States in 1906. His brother Yakov Sverdlov issued the orders to assassinate the Romanoff family during the Russian Revolution in 1918. Michele writes:

April 28, 2018

I appreciated reading about the encounter with Maxim Gorky on his tour, his correspondences, interviews, and writings regarding the tumult surrounding this event. I thought I would contribute a very minor point, because I believe Mark Twain would cherish the irony. He never lived to see the overthrow of the Czar. The article ponders whether Lenin would have read Twain's writing.

V.I. Lenin was not the one who ordered the execution of the Romanoffs, it was Yakov Sverdlov, the President of the Secretariat of the newly formed U.S.S.R. acting in tandem with Lenin as an adviser. Yakov Sverdlov, was the brother of Gorky's ''adopted son'' Zinovy Peshkoff, who accompanied him on his trip to America. Gorky was extremely close to the Sverdlov family, and adopted Zinovy so he could pursue a higher education, and mentor his aspirations as playwright and author at the time. Peshkoff was inspired by Twain's writing, and so was his brother, the one who dispatched the telegram which sealed the fate of the family.

Twain had started losing hope in the success of overthrowing the monarchy in Russia, and was photographed with Gorky, his mistress and adopted son. Little could he imagine how in 11 years, Gorky's affiliation with a revolutionary family contributed in doing what Twain came to believe would take generations or was futile.

Zinovy Peshkoff had another brother, who came to America, around 1913. He listed his address as the Bellclaire in NYC, which evicted Maxim Gorky and his scandalous wife. He was far more successful in obtaining funds for the revolution. That man was my grandfather.

Take care,

M. Bonder

To what extent the above part is verifiable, I don't know, but in general what I find here is a man who wanted monarchies destroyed and had no shyness about the violence required to do so, who may have even inspired others in that direction. Not a man who is taking some empty liberal position about loyalty to an existing country but not its leaders, as some sort of universal principle that would even apply to a country founded on genocide.

P.S. If anyone is more familiar with the context of Twain in this regard, feel free to add info. I only did a cursory investigation here, but even at that, it seems sufficient to say the quote is bogus in the way it was used by Conan; and in general, bogus in the way it is typically used by USian people.

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Like, why does a gym attract so many dickheads. I'm just there minding my own damn business when I overhear dudes talking about how they are 'going to get so much pussy for lifting' and whatever dumb shit. It's a constant stream of male garbage coming from all around you. My fault for not wearing headphones I guess.

Is that why you lift? Really? Are most gym bros just terminally insecure man children? Fucking hell man. Who unironically talks like that? I know I'm probably in a bubble as a sober, vegan communist but still.

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"The rich give away a smaller proportion of their money than the poor do."

I always think about this whenever people praise people like Bill gates for giving money away.

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It has a strong ML community, including those that like (and are from) Vietnam and China.

Even the liberals or milquetoast left-wing people from other countries give better answers; they're not like the ones from Reddit, probably because non-English options are widely present.

And the answers are comprehensive. Now, are they always correct? No, not always. But keep in mind that neither are the answers from Reddit or Internet forums.

I find myself missing that place, but I was laughed at for using it a couple of times and so stopped after a while. I might re-use my old account again and maybe try to make another ML place.

Your thoughts?

Idk, I just prefer Quora sometimes; I'm always guaranteed an answer.

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Edit:Hey, sorry, I think I was going through a mood swing earlier. Or maybe I am now. I need to go see a doctor. Anyway, I'll leave the post up if anyone has any thoughts. But sorry for being very mean spirited.

I'm so close to just being done. With all of it. I want to turn in my card and just feed myself to the wilds at this point.

I have had to have my faith in socialism tested so much. From the very day I learned the word I felt this pain growing inside me. It gnaws away at me every day and grows and grows with every betrayal. I can't handle it anymore. I can't handle another Gorbachev, another Ebert, another second international. Sometimes I wish AES states would just fail to prove once and for all that humanity doesnt deserve socialism. That way it wouldn't hurt anymore. Call it pessimism, doomerism, whatever you fucking want. I'm just so fucking tired of all of this. I'm so tired of taking one step forward and 5 steps back. I'm so tired of zionist leftist Germans and unimaginably insufferable TERF island brits, of pat socs and eurocommunists, of bleeding hearts and bloody hands. I don't expect anything to be perfect, but sometimes all I can feel is that history is not a history of class struggle, of class society. But of betrayal. From Thermidor to Weimar, from Arminius to the 20th CPSU congress.

And don't just tell me to have revolutionary optimism. I know the goddamn quotes, I know the goddamn throughline, I just have so little faith to be opmisitc nowadays.

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On the one hand you have the ultra conservative Dick Wolf american cop show. In this type of show cops are basically treated as being almost infallible, and that they need their abilities and power expanded to do their jobs. They beat criminals, throw them out of windows, constantly go off the book, etc. Lawyers are the ultimate evil, people are unreasonable when they fear cops and everyone is guilty until proven innocent. "Bad apples" aren't just cops who abuse their power. Bad apples to them are legit serial killers and anything else is just "Tough decisions."

But then you have the other side. I can't think of a lot of cop shows like this, so its basically just The Rookie and Brooklyn 99. As much as I have a soft spot for B99 cause it's funny, they both have something in common. They both portray cops with this wierd liberal propaganda filter. They don't have the Gung ho john mclane esque rogue behavior and don't actively support, yknow, torture. But they have the same throughline of "but da cops are good too, they care about the law and not abusing it and have all of these procedures and stuff." What I mean is that they portray cops as though they don't have the problems that everyone rightfully criticizes cops for. Which, idk, I don't think that's worse but I feel like its more infuriating. At least with a complete denial seen in shows like Blue Bloods and Law and Order, it feels like they aren't just straight lying to you. It's kinda like that Malcolm x quote about white liberals and such.

(I know this doesn't matter that much, but I like cop shows and watched them a lot before my ideological transformation[yes, i know of "In the Name of the People," I'll watch it at some point], and now I'm being reccomended a deluge of cop content for some reason, so wanted to rant for a minute)

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Someone came through, thank you so much!

Someone kindly responded to my last post asking for a sainsburys voucher and I'm really grateful. However sainsburys website has had technical issues for almost a week now, and still haven't been fixed. This means I'm currently unable to order from Sainsburys. (Due to my foot and tendon issues, I need to order for delivery).

For those who aren't aware I'm going through a disability benefit appeal, which is why I need help accessing food.

Justeat have several supermarkets near me I could order from. If anyone could send a justeat gift card to my email address I would be really grateful. The email address is DisabledAceSocialist@hotmail.com

This site takes credit, debit and paypal:

https://www.prezzee.uk/store/just-eat-uk-gift-card/

This one takes crypto:

https://www.bitrefill.com/gb/en/gift-cards/just-eat-uk/

This is another supermarket near me that takes crypto:

https://www.bitrefill.com/gb/en/gift-cards/marks-and-spencer-uk/

Each month I ask for Sainsburys supermarket vouchers, because I'm going through a benefit appeal and have no money for food, and worry that taking actual money could get me into trouble with the UK's benefit system. My last post was answered and someone sent me a sainsburys voucher (thank you!)

I have to order for delivery at the moment due to my foot surgery and damaged achilles tendon. I can't drive there as I'm partially sighted. How it works is that I fill the online shopping trolley with items and then at checkout I enter the gift card number. it converts that into an online coupon which then pays for the food.

I had a bit left in an online coupon, and then someone here sent me a gift card last week. Every day for about a week I have been trying to do my usual online shop, filling the trolley with food and then when I get to checkout and try to pay with the coupon or gift card it says "For technical reasons, we have not been able to connect you to the page you requested and we hope to be able to do so soon. Please try again."

This means I can't spend the coupon or gift card right now. I have emailed sainsburys customer services, two of their CEOs (Simon Roberts and Mike Coupe) as well as a customer service email address for someone called Sarah Tipper. The Mike Coupe email was returned as undeliverable and the others have not responded.

I am stressing out about this a lot and don't know what else to do other than ask for help getting a different food voucher for the time being.

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I got help here writing a letter to my GP before, and it worked really well. So I hoped to get more help writing another one. The issue this time is that the GP surgery has a pharmacy next door. When I fill out a repeat prescription request, the GP surgery electronically sends it to the pharmacy next door for them to fill.

That pharmacy is awful and I have non-stop issues with them, from giving me the wrong meds, items missing, unable to get items, the pharmacists being really rude to me (like having a go at me about how much my meds cost and blaming me when they give me the wrong things). They also have an annoying new system now where they put your bag of meds into a vending machine and send you a code and you have to use the code to retrieve your items.

Except they never send me the code and then when I ask them to get my items out they rudely tell me off for not using the code they haven't even sent me. The vending machine is supposed to be so that you can collect your meds even when the pharmacy is closed, but if I do that and a med is wrong and I take it back to be changed, the rude people tell me off for this because now it has to be thrown away as I took it home, and it's a waste of money. So this defeats the purpose of the vending machine as I always have to get my items when it's open anyway so I can hand back any wrong items right there.

Dealing with this pharmacy is a stressful nightmare. On multiple occasions I have told the GP surgery to stop sending my prescriptions there electronically, that I want a paper prescription that I can take to a different pharmacy. Sometimes they give me the paper but most times they forget and send it across anyway.

Another issue is that they always prescribe me a 2 month supply of thyroxine, but only one month of everything else. What's the point, I still have to deal with this every month. It would be more convenient to get a 2 month supply of everything so i only have to deal with this 6 times a year instead of 12.

I thought writing a letter to the GP surgery about this might work like it did with the previous issues. The things I want them to do are these:

  1. permanently unlink me from their pharmacy so that my items can never be sent there electronically.
  2. Always give me paper prescriptions to be collected from the GP surgery.
  3. Get a 2 month supply of everything each month, not just thyroxine.
  4. make sure all of this is permanent so I don't keep having this issue over and over, with them continually forgetting my wishes and sending my scripts over to the useless pharmacy like they do now.

Can someone help me write this effectively?

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Israel is starving Gaza as we speak. They are explicitly stating no Palestinian will make it out alive.

I protest. I get out on the street. I boycott. But it doesn't improve these situation in the slightest. The rest of the world is looking and doing nothing. And I feel like losing hope a bit. Like, what can I do more? I don't know anymore.

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idk if anyone remembers me as my last post was 2 months ago but it's in my profile history if you need context.

Long story short, I've now tried literally every blood thinner that exists. None of them solved the problem - actually, Xarelto, which is the one I started on, is also the one I tolerate best.

This likely means that my problems are not a side effect of the medication but caused by something else. And we don't know what, so that's cool.

I have more tests scheduled (in the 2 months since my last post I basically tried the last 2 blood thinners, that's how long it takes lol) to look at other causes but my dr is pretty much at a loss and so am I. We're just taking stabs in the dark trying to find something on tests.

The funny thing is I was talking to my neighbor today and they told me the husband's sister-in-law has the same problem as me apparently, except no clot event prior to that. But she also can't leave the house because it causes her to have nausea and vomit.

But it's such a general symptom, where do you even begin with it? Looking things up online I saw a medical case of someone around my age who had a lesion in the cervicals (iirc) and developed a similar problem from it, vomiting up to 25 times a day. It's the most generic symptom which makes it hard to pinpoint a cause.

So we're kinda back to square one, but at least now I can get certificates if I need them because it's not caused by the medication anymore so they can't argue lol.

I invited some friends over on Friday to celebrate one year of the embolism, which is technically on May 13. I probably won't be able to stay too long, but I think it's important to still have some social contact in these situations. And it's funny.

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It seems that as life becomes more expensive, the amount of financial aid available gets drastically reduced. The latest thing to go is Macmillan cancer charity. They used to give struggling cancer patients a grant every 2 years. It had lately gone up to £300 a year. I myself received one of these grants in November 2023, I was due to become eligible for another this November coming and was relying on it. Now I won't get it because Macmillan have decided to save money by no longer giving grants and no longer giving benefit advice to cancer patients (so they can cut staff numbers). Meanwhile there are news reports that they are hiring more managers on inflated salaries.

My local council used to give a £150 cost of living grant to low-income people twice a year. It was a lifeline. Then they cut it down to £100. Now they've scrapped it altogether. Why? Because:

The government decided to cut winter fuel allowance. They used to give all Old Age Pensioners the winter fuel allowance - a few hundred pounds to see them through the winter so they could afford to keep the heating on a bit longer and not freeze to death. Well, the government decided to make the winter fuel allowance available to far fewer pensioners, to save money.

So my local council has decided, instead of giving the Cost of Living Allowance to all low-income people in the area, they are going to give it all to pensioners to replace the winter fuel allowance. So younger poor people get nothing.

Meanwhile MPs, many of whom are millionaires, have given themselves a pay rise worth millions. Just when they're making disability benefits harder to claim too. Money is always being taken away from the poorest and extra given to those who don't need it.

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It has a vinyl cover but there’s a plastic roundel in the middle with Mao’s face (as shown in picture). When I got it the roundel was yellow but in the past few months it has developed a weird red discoloration. I live by the ocean so damp air could be the cause. The roundel looks and feels like a sticker as well so if removing it is possible I may be open to that as well. Does anyone else have the same version of the book as me or would know what’s going on?

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I will try not to reveal much personal information in order to maintain privacy.

Anyway, I've known Alex for most of my life, they were pretty good for most of it.

In recent years, they've gone down the MAGA pipeline, and it's gotten worse and worse over the years.

At this point: about every day they talk about illegal immigrants and Trump, often even making jokes about it.

They talked about it so much, and I tried to tell them the truth (such as that most undocumented aren't criminals, they can't migrate legally, etc.) and even encouraged them to do research about it, but they refused.

Here's where things start to get crazy:

In recent times, anything they see that goes against their worldview is called "fake news" while they literally unironically called Fox News a reliable source. (Another family member made fun of them for "only looking at Fox News," not knowing how right they were.)

They started to say how scared they are about "Venezuelan gangs" and even said that they check their windows and get scared at every sound because they are literally worried that it's one of the "gang members."

Then it happened:

We discussed the Garcia situation, where a legal immigrant was sent to CECOT without trial. We argued about it.

I asked stuff like, "Where's the fair trial? Where's the due process? Should you be punished for a crime you weren't even tried for and convicted of?"

They kept saying lies like, "They DID get a trial! They're an abuser! They're a gang member! Only the worst criminals go there! You just support mean people and gang members!"

This continued back and forth, until it happened.

They cried about how scared they were of the "illegal immigrant gangs" and being attacked by them. That's right, cried, with tears.

I was disgusted. I felt sad because they bought into this propaganda so much. And I felt amused to the point of laughing, which they didn't like.

That person had various problems in their life. And they decided to cry about "the evil brown people coming after me!!!"

I didn't feel sorry for them at all. That's disgusting.

And that was just the first instance.

Recently:

We were having just a mundane conversation in the car, and they made a joke about CECOT and El Salvador. I said that I didn't want to talk about that. They got angry and talked seriously about El Salvador. I told them again multiple times that I didn't want to talk about it, and they kept continuing. They said stuff back at me like "You know who goes to CECOT? The worst of the worst!" so I was forced to confront them like "They send innocent people there without trial, I don't want to talk about it." I keep saying no, they say "I have a right to say what I believe." I say, "I have boundaries, I want you to respect them. Can you please be respectful?" They say, "I cAn'T bElIeVe YoU sUpPoRt GaNgS!1!1!1!"

I tell them that I never said that and I want due process and don't want to talk about this, they sounded like they were going to cry about "the brown people coming to get me again!!!" and I wasn't in the mood to deal with that. Thankfully, I got to my destination soon after.

It is incredibly sad to see somebody I've known throughout my life turn into...this. Of course, there's much worse that could've happened, but this is unbelievable.

They do see a therapist, and I think I should encourage them to talk to them about it.

Do you guys have any thoughts or stories to share?

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It can be vexing at times to work out how to talk about communism, and socialist state projects, in particular around those with anti-communists views, but sometimes even around sympathizers when you are just trying to dispel propaganda or put it in perspective.

I've noticed you can find yourself in this realm where you're sort of first trying to dispel the "monster under the bed" binary view of what communism is in both theory and practice. And in doing so, it can come out sounding like you are saying communists are not devils, but they are angels. When the point is that they are neither devil nor angel, but are humans who are doing their best to build a more equitable and just world, free of class and caste-based oppression. But if you simply start out by saying this, it can sound like you are admitting to the truth of every absurd narrative against them. This sort of "yes, they are flawed, so that means all the stories about them are true."

But that is not what you want. You want to shake the anti-communist narratives. So you might sort of say, no look, they made incredible strides in quality of life. We can talk about the failures and the excesses and so on later. It can feel like a very awkward way to engage. You know that communism and communists are not perfect, that no one is, that they are not demi-gods but are regular people dealing with difficult material conditions who overcame through organizing. But the good and evil worldview, I think can sort of find this way of describing them to be disappointing or underwhelming, on top of the aforementioned point about some viewing it as an admission of guilt.

I don't have a strong conclusion here, which is why I wrote the title like a question. It may be one of those things where western Christianity rears its head and contributes to difficulties with viewing the struggle as something more nuanced than good vs. evil, or David vs. Goliath. But whatever the cause of it is and the means of getting past it, it seems critical to get there. Even just for the nuance of an anti-imperialist stance combined with communism, it is fundamental to notions of "critical support" to recognize the gray; staying stuck on good vs. evil but sympathizing with communism seems like a fast track to becoming an ultra, for example.

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Like, giving independence to California and Cascadia for example. Because if you're a communist party and believe the US is a settler state, it's logical to strive to break up that state. But I'm not Statesian so I don't know in what way this is discussed in the parties.

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