Right? It's awful. Browse through one of those sites that collects nude scenes in movies and compare how often nudity is used in a scene that is positive and joyful compared to how often it's used for shame, humiliation, violence, weakness.

I think the simple fact that hollywood cannot and will not show an erect penis, ever, is incredibly damning. It's such a banal, innocuous thing, but somehow it's utterly taboo to show a straightforward, visible sign of arousal and excitement during a sex scene!

Even when the characters are having a good time, you rarely see any intimacy. The characters don't smile at each other, giggle, play with each other's hair, pause just to be present. It's so often this incredibly rigid formula, a performance of a performance of a performance of sex.

I've heard a rumor that the mpaa will deny a rating to any movie where someone 1.) Goes down on a woman for more than six seconds and 2.) The woman is obvious having a good time.

Like we have a cultural supreme court that exists specifically to prevent media depictions of sex from being too happy, too loving, too full of wonder and joy and life. Idk if the rumor is true but it sure as hell feels true.