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This is more of a vent than anything but this happened last night and honestly I'm still pretty shaken up and mad over it.

I went out for a walk late last night (about 9:30-10pm) as I normally do when I have a lot on my mind. I was staying with a relative, they live in a decent-ish neighborhood and I have never experienced anything like this here before so it made it even more of a shock that this happened, plus I never go out within a five minute radius of the place of residence at this time of night for safety reasons.

I was walking around the area, was about ten minutes into the walk when I decided to sit on a bench for a breather. This car slowly drives by and approaches a parking space, but then exits it and just... stays right in front of me. I felt pretty uncomfortable and got up from the bench. Then the car started slowly following me.

I was practically shitting myself at that point and began walking faster, the car caught up with me and the driver rolled down the window and asked me if I was alright, saying I look lost, if I live in the area etc. I told him I was fine, that I live nearby. He asked me which house I lived in. I obviously refused to answer and just repeated that I lived nearby (again, a lie but I wasn't telling this creepy man anything about me). He told me that I was lying, that I don't live in the area, and I just repeated that I do and began to walk in the opposite direction. The car kept driving in the direction I was originally walking in and I thought that was it, but then he made a U-turn and continued to follow me.

After that I ran back to my relative's house and immediately locked the door behind. I don't think he saw which house I went into but I've been pretty shaken up since.

Why do creeps have to exist in the world.

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[–] ComradeSalad@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. That sounds horrifying and no person should need to fear for their safety like that.

I’m not sure of their quality in your area, but for how shitty and racist the police are where I live, calls like yours are taken surprisingly seriously, and response times are incredibly short. Would it be possible to have an emergency number on speeddail? Again, that’s awful you have to deal with this and I wish I could say more to help in some way : (

[–] josie@vegantheoryclub.org 11 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I'll be honest just talking about it and having people listen is more help than I could ask for, thank you.

I mentioned this in another comment but my country is horrible when it comes to stuff like this. Self defence isn't even legal. Welcome to Biscuit Island.

[–] SugandeseDelegation@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Reading through the other comments I was thinking "is this the cursed island?". What a surprise, it is indeed this shithole...

This was a scary read, can't even imagine what you must've felt like then and afterwards. I've seen my fair share of dodgy people on the streets and from all the horror stories I've read online, I'm always super paranoid and get uneasy whenever I'm out after 8-9pm, and see someone sitting in a car parked on a quiet road at night, or just standing around... and I'm not even in the "target demographic" for these kinds of harrassments.

Can't even imagine what it must be like to go out every day knowing this can happen to you and nobody will do anything about it, it's infuriating. And to think you weren't even in a bad area, nor was it that late... not that it seems to matter much recently. One thing I've noticed (and maybe I'm reading too much into it, or maybe it's something obvious that I've just discovered now because it's not something I had to worry about for myself), is that many women walk with their arms crossed, even in busy/safe areas; I've seen almost no men doing this. I interpreted it as them being uncomfortable, tense, anxious, or just "on the defense" in some way. And if it's that, it's truly terrifying - literally everywhere you go, you're made to feel like that, day in and day out?

It seems increasingly difficult to have a normal life on normal island...

[–] josie@vegantheoryclub.org 3 points 2 weeks ago

Oh, we have found many ways to adapt to a world that frequently wants to harm us. I have, like, half a dozen trusted friends on speed dial just in case. I didn't mention this in the post but I was about to call one of them until he started calling after me first.

This is an absolutely terrible country that rivals America in terms of racism and sexism and I am looking to leave asap.