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What's your general plan for getting out?
It sounds like you need to travel with more people, especially if the area you're moving to is more expensive than your current place.
Personally, my plan has been taking so long because I needed to guarantee that at least one other person I could trust would move out of state with me and split rent for at least one lease. Well now I have a partner, and we might even have extra friends that want in on the move. The more people to split risks and costs with, the better, and we'll have over a year to finalize details and make sure that at least half of us can get either out of state jobs or fully online jobs.
Either that or you'll have to find someone that already lives in an area you like and is willing to take a chance on you, either as a roommate or more reliably as a partner. But that comes with its own risks.
you're definitely right. through all of this one ringing truth has stood out; i can't possibly do this alone. unfortunately, i don't have many people in my life, and definitely no one in proximity who sees me for me and respects my identity and choices. and especially hard to come across like minded people here. i'll just have to keep trying
Do you have orgs near you? Hell, even the DSA. Just somewhere you can start making in person leftist friends.
Even if you don't manage to move out of state, it can really help your sanity.
i've given leftist orgs a try already.. they tend to be predominately cis-het especially around here which comes with its own complications particularly as a visibly brown queer. i think orgs are great for the cause and i support their operation but someone you can organize with and agree with politically isn't necessarily someone that can be your friend or family or community.