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if someone close to you just goes "lol boring" while you were talking about what happened in class/work, how would that make you feel? (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by Alunyanners@lemmygrad.ml to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

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would you be wrong for "finding it rude" simply because your friend didn't?

is it acceptable for them to justify themselves just going "lol boring" if they meant it for the topic and not you? like, should you magically no longer feel hurt anymore?

are you in the wrong for saying how just saying "lol boring" hurts you and requesting for them to say it more differently? that you're just being defensive?

all while they claim how you're "blaming them for everything", want them to change themselves to please you, to force themselves to "enjoy what you're talking about", to not be able to dislike topics when 1. you didn't say any of this, 2. you just wanted them to be more nice/compassionate and considerate of your feelings.

like, i'm sure we can all agree that there are better ways to say that what the person is talking about doesn't really interest you all that much but they can keep going if they want. or hell, just not mentioning at all and just listening to them.

i feel like literally any of this would be better instead of just going "lol boring" and get all defensive about it and accuse you of being defensive all you did was expressing hurt and wanting them to say it differently.

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[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

is this a text convo or IRL? a lot of nuance is lost in text, but it comes across as rude and shitty even making that allowance.

[–] Alunyanners@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 1 week ago

text.

idk if they would've said the same thing (especially so bluntly like this) on voice/irl, but their texts tend to be very, very short; and they're more expressive/talkative on voice. they say it's because of dyslexia, apparently.