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What Makes a Furry? (hexbear.net)
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I'm a little unclear on how the furry identity works. Is it like an LGBT+ thing where you just are this thing regardless of your feelings or desires, or does wanting to be a furry make you one? Like, I've fought against being trans much of my life, but now I see I pretty much always was. But I don't know if liking the puppygirl idea makes me a furry, or if that's something I have to have always been? (this is not a reaction to a recently popular puppygirl, I've meant to ask this for a while) I also may be terribly misunderstanding furries; that's a taboo subject where I live, so I don't know much.

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you want to be a puppygirl or furry, you can just be one. Self identify.

To be trans, you don't have to "always have been" either

[–] CupcakeOfSpice@hexbear.net 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I guess that makes sense. About the trans thing, I guess that's just how it's been presented to me. I came from a deeply conservative background and am working through a lot of deprogramming and relearning. Also Tumblr lib programming to undo too.

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago

It's okay. I think it's a pretty common conception. For years, the phrase was "I am a woman who was born in a man's body"

I think the trans community has a more mature grasp on gender these days that focuses on gendered experience rather than innate qualities.

I'm glad you found your transness and made it here after being in such a conservative place cuddle