AuDHD
A place for those that got both Autism and ADHD, those confirmed as one and are suspecting they got the other as well, and also everyone who is neither and just genuinely curious.
Since the combo comes with its own set of challenges, this shall be a place to ask for advice, vent, infodump about special interests and/or just vibe and meme.
Please be respectful. General niceness guidelines apply - formal rules will be added later if necessary.
In regards to medication and medical advice: Please take under consideration that this is only an online support community. Offered advice is always an expression of individual opinions or experiences and shall never be taken as substitute for a professional in-person assessment!
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Hello friend!
The more we know about ourselves the stronger we are. If you better understand your difficulties and accept that they require work to accommodate instead of trying to suppress them you'll have a better life.
Knowing about how shitty my memory is has led me to adopt aides (like task lists structured for my brain) and ask friends for help in ways that aren't overly burdensome for them but are extremely empowering for me.
The understanding also really helped me with shame after losing my father - I just don't think of stuff like others do so my grief was minimal during his memorial service and instead pops up when I think of an activity I'd like to share with him.
We're built different (and, IMO, ADHD and ASD are way over broad so even among our community there's a lot of differences). Figure out what the diagnosis means to you and use that understanding to build a better and more stable life.
Oh, and to address one way too common theme... just because you might be excellent or an overachiever in some metrics doesn't deny you the right to ask for help.
When you need it, ask for help. Everyone needs help at some point.
asking for help is the hard part, exactly because of the other "minor" things that were diagnosed. according to the evaluation, i display some schizoid traits in that i, for instance, have a very hard time opening up to other people, especially when i'm not feeling well, because i feel deeply that i'm bothering them and that they hate me for pestering them. the consequence is that, instead of looking for my friends when i'm feeling down and neglecting them when i'm feeling well, i only get in touch when i'm basically feeling fantastic (e.g. right now). any discomfort makes me immediately isolate myself for comfort
i feel like the formal diagnosis + meds + therapy are going to help me with that, but it also feels like it's always gonna be a struggle