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It is already legal to have a sexual relationship with multiple partners at the same time. Bigamy should be legalised. That it isn't, is a result of entrenched bigotry and religious prudery.
If you're using God as a proper noun, capitalise it. Not capitalising it is potentially confusing. Eg. There are numerous gods. Zeus is a god and God is a god.
It is likely too late to avert climate apocalypse. Don't have kids and you've done far more than most to prevent climate change. (This doesn't mean we shouldn't try to prevent it.)
A lot of society's ills are attributable to arseholes not getting punched in the face enough. This includes the fact that we can't make it legal to punch arseholes in the face, because arseholes would abuse that right to punch people who don't deserve it in the face.
America has become so fat, that most Americans have a skewed perception of what it means to be obese.
Most sports are stupid. Michael Phelps can swim 6 mph. Fish can swim 10x faster than that. Fuck that. I want to watch a tiger chase Trump through a maze.
The already high male suicide rate is severely underestimated. A lot of male risk taking behaviour, including car/bike related accidents, is suicidal in nature.
In practice identity based politics is often used to divide and conquer and distract people from their true interests. Class consciousness is more important. You have more in common with your colleagues, than you do with Beyonce or Joe Rogan, just because they happen to have the same skin colour and/or genitals as you.
The problem with bigamy is that most historic implementations of it involved a series of 1v1 marriages to one person who could marry others and the rest that couldn't. To prevent chains of marriage, only one gender was allowed to marry, usually male.
If you remove gender from marriage, you can get much messier marriages and there is no legal understanding of what happens in those cases.
Yeah it would be fascinating complex in any system that doesn't view women as property and gives everyone equal rights, especially with bisexuals included... It's actually fascinating to try and picture how it would go down.
Imagine you meet a woman and fall in love, she's already married to me and another guy, he's got three wives and I'm married to two guys and one of the women he's married to, they all have multiple husbands and wives in complex chains that double back on themselves and intertwine.
It opens up so many new and difficult questions, obviously you can't all live together and can't all do things together so who is spending Christmas with who? Who is coming on the family vacation? What do I do if I love my wife and my husband but they both also love people who hate each other? What if my wife has A wife that's married to someone a bit right wing and his other wives are all married to more extreme right wingers who are married to q crazies...
Secrets is a good example, I tell my wife pretty much everything because I love and trust her but if we're all married then secrets will spread like wildfire or new rules need to be invented which dilute what it means to be married, same with organizating things - normally you organise everything with your partner and do things together but when everyone is linked through winding chains of marriage that's not possible, shared bank accounts aren't possible for a start or buying a house together as everyone will want to do it with all their partners so again either a house big enough to fit the whole country or some marriages are more significant than others.
That's the real issue I see developing, almost a caste system, or worse almost a hive structure - maybe I'm not as popular as you with our wife, by default I'm not in the group going to her parents for Christmas for example so instead I have Christmas with some of the other reject spouses, what do I do when my wife needs my help with something? I help, right? And if the thing she needs help with is helping her husband to get a gift for his more favoured wife to give to her favourite husband... Chains of importance spinning of in every direction, celebrity spouse's that everyone fawns over getting gifts and resources chained right up from the bottom of the barrel plebs like me...
And this is all without even thinking of kids or how they're made! Wouldn't it be great to enjoy valentine's day in bed with your wives? Well your wives think the same so now me and Fred are there and I brought Tim, Thomas, and Tiffany...
Of course the answers are all 'well do it on a case by case basis' type thing but if you're keeping your money personal, organising things based on availability and preference then it's basically the same as not being married at all but a lot more complex.
I just find it fascinating thinking of the implications of that becoming as common as monogamy is. Honestly I'm fairly ambivalent about which I think would be better, it's not like there aren't endless issues with the current system.
Its not too late to beat climate change. We have already avoided complete apocalypse and things are progressing
None of these are unpopular takes other than the first one. It's no one's business who you fuck. We have no fault divorce for those who want out for any reason. The state doesn't care about why you divorce, and it seems like many successful people have multiple families so it also seems like it wouldn't be too difficult to trip past that either.
Edit: the climate change one is also unpopular since all that will happen is the loss of diversity and people who live near the shore will have to move inland. There will be more extreme weather events but it's not like we're going to turn into Venus. Things are just going to get more expensive and classist and racist.
Ok, i guess. Yes. Yes. Yes - do you really say the r or do you just say asshole? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.
English, it's a non-rhotic R. Phonetically.... I don't know how to write it.
/ษหs/
There you go. Some regional accents hit the rhotic R, and some approach the American pronunciation of ass again (old Westcountry accents especially).
That's not unpopular, that's based.