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Neurotypicals - Is it rude to share a similar story after you share something that might be emotional or traumatic? (hexbear.net)
submitted 4 days ago by ratboy@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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I keep hearing that this is frowned upon, but I cannot help it. After I share, I circle back and explain how and why I connected the two stories to try to recenter the other person. Is this annoying? How do you want ND people to respond in that case?

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[–] regul@hexbear.net 18 points 4 days ago

Sometimes when people are feeling a lot, all they want to do is get it off the chest or just simply be heard. "Good listening" usually means "paying attention and not saying a lot in response". Allowing or helping someone to get their story out is usually the most important thing in situations like this. This is where stereotypical "therapist questions" like "How did that make you feel?" fit in.