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I'm a trans man. I didn't realize how broken men are
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That is also my experience - never could emotionally open or connect to my male friends. While (from time where I learned it) not having the same problem with women in relationships or friendship. I feel always a bit on guard with other men, always a bit performing. But at the same time I never made an negative experience with opening up being emotionally vulnerable.
Kind of have to take the first step. If you trust one of your mates, give em a hug, text em out of the blue and thank em for being a mate etc.
The theoretical steps are rather clear, it's just a different "vibe" I have with men and women (therefore I guess most of my friends are women) - sure in the end I just need start doing it, but as with all emotional things it's easier said then done.
My bros and I are very emotionally open with each other. We've had sit-downs where we listen to each other and help each other through problems, hug each other when we cry.
Sure, I'm not going to do that with someone I just met 5 minutes ago, but once we know each other a bit we are very supportive and open.
He's a fool if he thinks he's going to form deep connections with other men in a short time period, especially as an outsider. Men make 4 friends in junior highschool and decide that's enough for the rest of our lives. Men are also very tribal. He's going to have to wait for years, or even decades to find the deep and meaningful relationships he's looking for. That's just how men operate.