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Why is it always a bunch of young adult white males? Don't we have a cure for incels yet?
I live in a country where prostitution is legalized. Maybe that would help these guys.
Oh and therapy.
There is absolutely a cure for incels, yes, but nobody in the west would like it. So you're kind of stuck with them.
The prostitution thing won't work, though. I actually got fed up with a loud incel peripheral to a social circle I was part of and snapped, offering to hire him a hooker right then and there so he could STFU about how he'd never been laid.
Immediately he moved the goalposts and said he didn't just want to get laid, he wanted a "genuine emotional relationship". Saying this despite for the previous two hours only ever talking about sex, sex appeal, sexual characteristics, etc. with not a word spent on "genuine emotion".
Some people just want to whine, and when they gather in groups they spiral destructively.
Let's be real: it's about control. They want sex on their terms, and paying for it doesn't put them in control. They say things like "genuine human connection," while desperately wanting a traditional, subservient woman that they can use to satisfy their needs.
Well yes. It's about sex and specifically forcing sex.
They're wannabe rapists, in effect.
Suggest they should get a mail order bride then, or stop being such an unlikable cunt by raising their self-respect standards.
In my experience they seem to shut up when you suggest that.
I'd give em the "two wolves inside you" talk - like negativity and positivity. Gotta keep the moral lessons at preteen development levels with these sorts of folks.
What you said is all true, and there's no excusing that level of rottenness, but I do think there's a deeper component to it that they do not acknowledge.
They want to feel good about themselves, which at the core is not unreasonable, but they've built up this whole misogynistic mythology where they need a conventionally attractive woman - mind, body, and soul, in order to feel safe and happy.
But I'm convinced that even if they somehow stumbled into this unlikely relationship they would still be miserable.
I think even darker (as the response to @Glide@lemmy.ca indicates). When I see incel behaviour from a man, I make damned sure that man is always in my sight and at a distance. And I won't accept any drink from him, nor any invitation to go somewhere else, even if it's in the same building.
Yes that's very wise. They've already shown you that they feel they might "deserve" a certain type of affection, so who knows what they feel entitled to.
Other men at these social settings also need to take a more active role in 1) detecting, and 2) deterring, incel adjacent behaviour.
Some percussive maintenance applied directly to their face once per rally or as needed will do wonders to decrease symptoms and prevent the spread.
Actually, the evidence indicates the opposite.
Please keep in mind as you read the below that punching and doing literally nothing are not the only options, since I get that false dichotomy as a response way too often: "oh, so you think we should just leave them alone and ignore them?" No, oppose them, emphatically. But not violently--making martyrs of them, to their buddies and those they're looking to recruit, by sucker punching them is not going to accomplish what you think it will.
On a purely pragmatic/practical level, it's a bad idea, if your goal is to oppose Nazism.
Experts on extremism/terrorism etc. are all saying the exact same thing.
See for yourself: (emphasis added)
Even former white supremacists admit punching Nazis plays right into their hands, gives them exactly what they want:
Well that is a more researched response than my glib comment deserved. I respect the effort you put into it.
This is why we should still be able to beat kids.....sorta /s
Therapy has always been legalized, but the folks who need help the most will often not dare ask for it
Or lack easy access to it
Very true, important correction!
At this point, I suspect the only real solution is guns and knives.
Not advocating, just commenting.
Username checks out
Let's start there.
Easily impressionable, yet craving for attention
Well for this particular meeting, I think young white males are the target demographic.
I don't think prostitution is ever going to be legalized in Canada (or USA).
Prostitution is legal in Canada.
Solicitation for Prostitution is illegal.
I meant it will never be fully legal.
What you said is like saying owning a gun is legal but buying ammo for it is illegal.
One is pointless without the other.
Only of we continue to give credence to opinions such as yours.
What do you believe my opinion is exactly? I'm not sure you know what my opinion on this matter is, so I am genuinely curious what you believe it is.
So you think it will become fully legalized? We've just had a fairly progressive government for how many years, and now we have a new government coming who will want to practically ban porn and introduce digital ID verification through those sites (to start, let's see if it doesn't spread to other sites). You really think we're going to become more progressive about this in the future and fully legalize it?
Yes, I do believe we are moving towards fully legalized prostitution.
We had a somewhat progressive government being harried by reactionary dolts who can't accept modernity.
Thinking it will never be fully legalized is accepting defeat.
Thinking the cons are going to get in before the election is called is accepting defeat.
Progress takes work, negativity allows the shit stains to move us backwards.
No no, we do talk about it a lot. It may not be close but it could happen.
Not in Alberta, no. But in Canada, yes.
It's legal in Nevada...
I meant fully legal country-wide.