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That behavior is learned, for the most part. The meds just help you follow through and stay on track to actually complete "normal" things.
Procrastination is normal. Starting to work on cleaning a room but somehow end up sorting screws in your neighbors garage is not normal.
Meds have limits and they aren't magic. They are fucking awesome, but still, not magic.
There is a ton of stuff that you will need to sort out in your own brain over the next few months or years, TBH. Some ADHD'isms run deep. Some issues are correctable, some are not but that is for you to figure out on your own.
Two of my friends, also ADHD, have had a sustained experience on meds which was agreed upon by them to be something akin to "The Spirit of Cleaning visited me at midnight as usual; only now it wasn't midnight, it wasn't out of control, and it was on command both starting and stopping".
I've not had any such visits yet (though I've previously, while not on meds, definitely had the "Midnight Spirit of Cleaning" visits) nor taming of the spirits, but I have found that starting small tasks and finishing them is much easier, so you know, I'll fucking take it. The level of utter dysfunction I formerly had is... hard to imagine that it's been most of my life 'til now.
I wasn't medicated until my early 30's, so I get it at least. The anxiety and the depression that came with not being medicated sucked ass as well, so take that very seriously if you need.
Same boat, has taken years of therapy as part of my treatment plan to start working through those learned behaviours.
ADHD sucks ass.
It’s taken me a year, but I have just about conquered my Dino brain telling me to “just finish it later, it’ll be easier that way.” Because it so won’t, stupid brain.
What do you have against my neighbor’s garage exactly?
It distracted me.
Those screws aren't going to sort themselves