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I've realized I am really bothered by passive voice in cleaning with people I live with. "I am going to do the dishes tonight" - great "Eric, would you take out the trash tonight please?" - that's fine! I probably would have taken it out if I had realized it was full. I'm an adult and this is my house, I try to keep it clean. "We need to clean up around here!" - What does that mean? Do you want me to clean? Are you going to clean? I thought things were pretty clean, is there something specific that needs cleaning?

Also me and my mom can't live together because we do dishes differently. I am a "fill and start the dishwasher" person and she is a "Empty the sink" kind of person.

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[–] someguy3@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

she is a "Empty the sink" kind of person.

What does this mean?

[–] mcathen@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You have a sink full of dishes. OP loads the dishwasher with as much as he can fit and runs it and considers the chore done. His mom doesn't consider the dishes done until the whole sink is empty.

[–] goldenbug@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] ericbomb@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Okay but the trouble rose because my sisters took advantage of this system. We would take turns, and my sisters would "empty" the sink when it would only fill the dishwasher up to like half. Then it would flip to my turn. Then shenanigans would happen to make sure on my turns the sink would be extra full. So I would either need to hand wash a ton, or do a second load in the dishwasher, which would give chance for people to put more stuff in the sink.

If the system was "Your turn is up when the dishwasher is full and running" then there is far little room for silliness when it comes to turns.

I use the word pet peeve on purpose, should I care "that much" about it? Especially now as a 29 YO adult that owns his own home? No, clearly not.... and yet.