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I just recently had some awful DM harassment from a transphobic idiot who told me that I was pretending to be trans. It was dealt with but I'm still left wondering. Why do some people believe that we would pretend to be trans? What do they think someone would gain by "pretending" to be trans. It just seems so stupid because I've dealt with so much oppression and people invalidating me my whole life, and yet they still think I'm pretending to be trans for some some reason...? Why? What the fuck does someone gain from pretending to be trans? This makes no fucking sense whatsoever.

Sorry for this rant, I really needed to get this off my chest.

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[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 21 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

It is dogma mixed with the unfamiliar. It is very similar to how people that do not GAF about me and my physical disability like to say I'm fine and just lazy or it is in my head. That is the most destructive bullshit anyone can say to me, but I have learned to translate it as them saying "I am a worthless homicidal fuck that wants to kill you," and that seems to help keep things in perspective. There are a whole lot of stupid people in the world. Average is a very low bar and half of the world is below it.

"Never argue with stupid people. They bring you down to their level, and beat you with experience."

Best part of that quote is when they agree and take it as a complement.