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I just recently had some awful DM harassment from a transphobic idiot who told me that I was pretending to be trans. It was dealt with but I'm still left wondering. Why do some people believe that we would pretend to be trans? What do they think someone would gain by "pretending" to be trans. It just seems so stupid because I've dealt with so much oppression and people invalidating me my whole life, and yet they still think I'm pretending to be trans for some some reason...? Why? What the fuck does someone gain from pretending to be trans? This makes no fucking sense whatsoever.

Sorry for this rant, I really needed to get this off my chest.

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[–] Embargo@lemm.ee 30 points 9 hours ago (3 children)

My dad's hot take on trans people was that they're transitioning to upset their parents. I'm not trans but this shit got me so pissed and is maybe the dumbest and most offensive shit I've ever heard him say. I'm sorry that you're in a position where people feel they can offload horrible marginalising garbage onto you. You're absolutely right... It makes no fucking sense.

[–] Pregnenolone@lemmy.world 7 points 4 hours ago

Classic narcisism, thinking they’re the center of everyone’s mind at all times.

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Do people not exercise theory of mind enough? Does he not ever realize that people live whole lives outside of what he sees and imagines?

[–] janet_catcus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 hours ago

probably to busy trying to ignore whatever his own life has in store for him?

in cases like these i default to my pet theory of "transphobic people are without realizing basically just inexperienced, scared little kids pretending to be adults, just like everyone else. except these havent seen so much of the world and a little 'exposure therapy' could actually work wonders if anyone really gave one of them an actual chance.. but nobody has to put up with their bullshit so nobody will 🤷‍♀️ " (speaking about a singular transphobic person. a whole herd of them is just a stampede waiting to happen)

but maybe that is just naivety on my part, believing that nobody is so lost they are irrecoverable :3

[–] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 14 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

I think your dad has the dumbest take I've heard yet

[–] socialjusticewizard@sh.itjust.works 19 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

It makes perfect sense if you're a person who thinks they're the absolute center of the world and you judge every other person's actions by how they impact you personally, I suppose.

[–] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 10 points 8 hours ago

Sometimes I see people like that and I wonder how they have kids, let alone a romantic partner