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I just recently had some awful DM harassment from a transphobic idiot who told me that I was pretending to be trans. It was dealt with but I'm still left wondering. Why do some people believe that we would pretend to be trans? What do they think someone would gain by "pretending" to be trans. It just seems so stupid because I've dealt with so much oppression and people invalidating me my whole life, and yet they still think I'm pretending to be trans for some some reason...? Why? What the fuck does someone gain from pretending to be trans? This makes no fucking sense whatsoever.

Sorry for this rant, I really needed to get this off my chest.

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[โ€“] grue@lemmy.world 7 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I never doubted that trans (or LGBT+ people in general) weren't pretending simply because it seems like it would be such a pain in the ass to subject yourself to all the stigma of not conforming to heteronormativity unless you were damned serious about it.

However, even if I had doubted it, the last panel of this comic would've convinced me:

Any cis guy who can be exposed to that argument and still claim to doubt is just a fucking bigoted liar.

[โ€“] SkyezOpen@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

I regret to inform you that this won't change most of their minds. They already have the right wing talking heads telling them trans people are mentally ill, they can't imagine wanting to cut their nuts off, therefore anyone that does must be mentally ill and that slots right into their preconceived beliefs perfectly.

I'd say your best shot to maybe make them understand is "do you wake up and choose to be a man/woman? Neither do I"

It's even funnier when the topic is being gay because you will get a few that say they DO wake up and choose to be straight. Like buddy, I have news for you. (Though those ones are sad because they're denying who they are due to external pressures, but at the very least they should be somewhat empathetic)