Yeah, at no point in my dating life did I ever continue seeking relations past week three. If we’re not fucking by week three, we’re just not fucking.

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 12 points 2 days ago (2 children)

It doesn't say no fucking, just don't spend the whole night.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

For me, that is even weirder to be honest.

[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

If they can’t stand you in the morning, it wasn’t real anyway. It was all about the cookie.

[–] SplashJackson@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 days ago

Ah, the Sexless Innkeeper

[–] jnb@lemmy.ca -2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yall weird as hell. Ever heard of taking it slow?

[–] Fecundpossum@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Nope. Never wanted to waste my time to find out someone was terrible at intimacy. Wife and I slept with each other on our third date, and all these years later still can’t keep our hands off each other.

You do you, but that puritanical shit was always a red flag for me.

[–] meep_launcher@lemm.ee 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Also I never understood "take it slow". What's slow? 90 days? A year? 2 years? A decade?

Then there's the "you should be single for a bit". Okay I've been single for 5 months, but then "no I've been single for two years". You mean I'm not supposed to have intimacy for some arbitrary amount of time? I'm supposed to ignore any advance by anyone no matter how great they may be? I've missed so many good eggs that way.

[–] Fecundpossum@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I’ve always been of the understanding that people who do the whole “no sex until “x” event or time span” thing seem to consider sex to be a transactional performance, as opposed to raw form of human connection. They expect commitment to come before that connection, and use their withholding as a form of manipulation. To which my reply was always “Next”

[–] Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee 2 points 2 days ago

100%

It also sets weird and potentially false expectations around sex as an event, which puts undue pressure on both parties, rather than something that simply happens as a natural course of a relationship evolving.

[–] jnb@lemmy.ca -1 points 2 days ago

that puritanical shit lmao who said anything about this being religious? I don't follow anything.

It's called "being queer & careful with your partner; getting STI tests, getting to know each other, adjusting to each other's rhythm"

sheesh...