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Yes, if you don't have a job then you're considered completely worthless and a loser. Unless you're like, a stay at home mom or something, but even then some might judge a little.
liberals on lemmy tried to insult me 3 times by saying that i had no job and it was a strange feeling because i literally had 2 jobs at the same time when it happened.
it put on a smile on my face knowing it revealed to me that those lemmings tied their self worth to their jobs and that they were so overworked that they couldn't fathom how someone could be a software developer and a linux systems administor at the same time while still being a frequent lemmy poster. lol
In my experience the social status of stay at home moms depends on their status in the racial and economic hierarchy.
Racialised women who stay at home to take care of their children are seen as "welfare queens", leeching off the tax money of hardworking (white) people and as insulting the nation itself by refusing to be "integrated" by joining the labour market.
At the other end of the spectrum, white financially comfortable women who stay at home are perceived largely positively as someone who really cares about their children
In all cases stay at home moms are coded as female with all the nasty misogyny that goes with that. Whether a stay at home mom is denounced as a non-Aryan subhuman or lauded as an epic tradwife she is not considered a "serious" person the same way male-coded people would be.
I think all care is demonized, only in different ways. Care work, especially if not monetarily remunerated, is seen as "women's work" and therefore less important than wage labor.
Only if you’re a SAHM in a relationship…at one point in the U.K. it was single mums they said were ruining the country.